Dad moved onto end of life care

FormerMember over 5 years ago

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My Dad has stage 4 bowel cancer and his symptoms are progressing. We are starting to have discussions about end of life care. I feel so numb. I work as a therapist and work are being incredibly supportive but I'm just finding it hard to feel motivated at all at the moment. I just don't know how I'm going to cope with him not being here or even how to make it through seeing him so poorly. I suppose I'm just looking for suggestions on how people have looked after themselves whilst going through such a loss.

LoobyLou49 over 5 years ago

Hi and a warm welcome to our online community. I'm sorry to hear about your dad. There's a selection of information here although at first sight it all looks a bit cold, the booklets address various stages. But of course it's not that easy or clear cut as reading information. We all handle the pre-grief stage in different ways. I couldn't contemplate it at all and didn't think of it until it happened with my dad, but when my husband had three different cancers I went into meltdown. My saving grace was the support and friendships here with Macmillan. Some of the advice I had was to ground my emotions by naming things around me, clouds, trees, flowers, curtains and so on and however odd it sounds, it worked.

I'm sure you'll hear from others soon as well. Until then, sending big hugs,

LoobyLou
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