My husband has just found out that he has to have a tumor removed from inside his nose. It was only found by chance and we are still in shock. Doctors say it is a good cancer (whatever that is) but they need to treat it as these can turn bad. I'm trying to understand but the difficulty is all this is going on in Spain where my husband is from and I'm only getting piecemeal information which seems to change daily. We live in London and my husband has to go back for radiotherapy and chemotherapy treatment this week and will be gone for several months. We have a 6 year old and a 3 month old and I am beside myself with worry. I worry about the prognosis, the treatment and how he will cope without us and how I will cope without him. I have a small loving family here but I am so utterly overwhelmed by the enormity of everything.
Hi and welcome to the Online Community, although I am sorry to see you finding us and so sorry to hear about your husband.
More and more cancers are being treated successfully then ever before. When I was diagnosed in 1999 I was told there was no remission for me.....zoom forward 17 years I am in remission....... this can be done.
The noise between your ears is debilitating bringing lot's of stress, confusion and many questions on all the family but talking with people who are on the same journey can help a lot.
I see that you have found our very supportive Head and neck cancer group, this group will open up your concerns to a wider audience who know exactly what you are going through at the moment.
To join just click on the link I've created and then you can then introduce yourself and post questions after selecting 'start a discussion' and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
As I was the person with the cancer my experience of supporting someone is very limited, although my wife has been amazing over my 20 years. You may also find our Carers Only and Friends and Family groups to be good places where you can connect with others supporting family through their cancer journey but more importantly the carers care for each other.
You may find our various Macmillan Support Line Services to be helpful - call them on 0808 808 00 00 This free service covers Emotional Support, Practical Information. Clinical Information, Financial Support and Work Guidance mostly open 8.00 to 8.00 but check the link.
We also have our ‘Ask an Expert’. section where you can post questions to our mostly Volunteer Experts but please allow 2 working days to get a reply.
Our Online Information and Support Section is a good place to find information covering cancer diagnosis, treatments and pages covering most types of cancers.
Talking to people face to face can help you a lot so check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area or a Maggie’s Centre as these folks are amazing.
When you feel up to it try putting some information in your profile. This really helps others when answering. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. Just click on YOUR username, select 'Edit Profile'. Put as much or as little in your profile and you can amend it at any time - you can see members profiles by hitting our forum names.
All the very best.
