Funeral Arrangements

Yep MiniMouse I have spent time designing at the funeral service so it meets my needs and my family is able to move on.  I've spoken to the minister. 

However, the motivation is inversely proportional to how my treatment is going.  I was very motivated at the start, on diagnosis, when I believed the prognosis and felt rubbish.  Now my cancer is under control and I don't believe the prognosis it's just "on the list" and "a problem to solve/document/hand over".  I've written in my Will that there should be no black attire and the funeral is a time to say goodbye and be thankful for the time we were able to spend together.  The solicitor tried to persuade me against it because it's not enforceable and you can advise that elsewhere, but I felt strongly about it.  

Thank you for your response. I understand exactly what you mean about how you feel. I think it’s a good think to sort out ok any case - I never thought before about how it might be hard for family to take it on. X

I agree with you,,  we know it is coming at some point, others do no get  given that option, here one and gone the next without any warning.xx.

I have updated my will for (I hope!) the last time. In my very first will, I stated that I want a green burial, but no ceremony at all. My reasoning? I live 75 miles away from the green burial site, which is a long way for people to travel. My family all live hundreds of miles away, and most don't drive, so I think it would be really silly for them to attend my interment. I still have this as a clause in my will.

I would much rather see my family and friends whilst I'm still functioning!! Why should they bother once I'm gone??

Hi minimouse

It's not a rant at all. I have made all my arrangements and I feel better for it, and my family know what's to be done. At the moment I'm stable in the treatable but not curable category and whilst it is not my intention to toddle of anytime soon I have made sure I get what I want. So I say well done to you.

Have a good weekend

Hugs Donna

YOU all have me thinking about my funeral   . I just want a basic & small  get together . Nothing fancy   a few words and away I would go  

Hi all, I also have arranged my departure a humanist funeral with the co-op, every thing sorted, so all my wife or daughter has to do is a phone call to the undertaker's, never thought I'd be saving anyone hassle, just want it all done my way, I'll be in a suit white shirt Sunderland tie, blue socks dress shoes, I'm making sure I'm presentable for God and Jesus.

Hi ulls. Me to uve arranged mine with the Co.op. simple as you can get. No cars as the main person is my son and he drives if anyone else wants to come they make there own way. I'm having a humanist lso.. I don't want a wake..why shud my son have to do all that for people I don't see anyway. So go for coffee or summit . All he has 2 do is buy me some cheap flowers that's it.nothing fancy at all x

If I'm still around and ok to do I'll come, its not that far 

Ulls until you mentioned it here I've forgot to include what I want to wear. So after some thought this weekend I've gone with a LBD and a  coloured snuggle hoodie. I'm sure him upstairs won't mind the hoodie my brother got it for me instead of a bunch of flowers when I was first diagnosed and I can honestly say it's the best present I've ever had. I am lovely and warm when I wear it and I go for every immunotherapy treatment wearing it. It makes me feel safe and hugged, so I hope him upstairs won't mind when it's time.

Donna