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Hi I am new to this and finding it very hard got diagnosed end of August 2022 been a whirlwind of test chemo and got radiation treatment on the horizon but also trying to get my head around it plus stay strong for my 3 kids and 3 grandkids plus my husband but as you can imagine finding it hard they are all supportive but I've always been the strong one and now got time on my hands as not working how are any of you getting your head around it all 

  • Hi  , sorry I'm late to welcome you but you have only just appeared on my horizon. Welcome to the group Dotty, you'll find lots of friendship and support here which I think you have already sampled. Of course I wish I'd met you elsewhere but here we are and we'll make the most of it. With respect to your cancer it would appear that you've hit the ground running. Your family will care for you, that's for sure. 

    Looking forward to chatting with you in the weeks and months to come. 

    Take care Dotty

    Tvman x

    Love life and family.
  • I have asked everyone I know to treat me as normal  as I have not changed in myself yes I do put a brave face on in front of them all but when I get time to myself that's when I can think about what's going on and face things what is happening to me even cry and wounder why me but this is getting  less frequent  so guessing  I am coming to terms with it started sleeping a bit better thank god found myself walking around house at daft o'clock in the morning still dreading radiotherapy but trying not to think about it to much go tomorrow for my mapping appointment so got a load wrote down to ask .I really want to thank everyone  who has welcomed  me to the group and at least I know I am not alone cose that's the worst thing I did even family and friends  don't no how alone I felt but knowing other people are out their going through the same thing as at least calmed me xxx

  • Dotty the mapping is nothing to worry about, nor having the radiotherapy, it is the fear of the unknow, which is the biggest thing to over come.

    Radiotherapy can cause some side effects, you just tell the people doing it if you have any, not sure how many sessions you are having, i had 13, and see the doctor and had bloods done when i was there twice, was all within my unit,

    Thoughts are with you. Its funny when i got diagnosed never said why me, i said to kids why not i am the same as any one else.

    Then hubby got diagnosed, i said this is not fair, then last year daughter got a diagnosis, that did push me over the edge, though we have to go  forward we cannot go back.

  • Hi Dotty, Thanks for replying, I had been thinking about you and wondering how you were. Yes I remember my circle of friends getting smaller but you know the ones who are still with you are the important ones and will stick with you. As others have said, some people can't cope with knowing but the problem is theirs not yours!

    I wholeheartedly agree with Ellie, the fear is about the unknown. Once you get the first RT behind you, things will improve and you will get into what will become your new routine! Do you know yet how many treatments you have to have.

    Feel free to post when you are awake and wandering around the house at stupid o'clock, you will be surprised how many of us are doing the same, you are not alone. Please keep in touch!

    Love Annette x

    Yesterday is History, Tomorrow is a Mystery, Today is a Gift!!!
  • Good morning Dotty, people just don't no how to treat us and don't  know how to approach the subject.. I have learnt who my real friends are, the few that have stuck by me on this journey. I find the group a great help to me and hope I come across as supportive. Your treatment will become part of your new routine and you'll  just start to except it as the new norm. We'll I hope your having a good rest. Its 4.28 and time for more tea. Take care and keep posting

  • I am having 10 blast over 14 days and thank you for everyone's kind words much appreciated  xx