Hi everyone
I was diagnosed on Tuesday with metastic peritoneal cancer following a visit to A and E with stomach pain . I have no previous history of cancer so this was a big shock although I did suspect in my gut something was not right.
At the moment I am waiting for test results to see if the primary cancer can be identified before a treatment plan can be identified ( or not)
I am trying to focus on sorting out all the practical aspects so that my other half wont be left with a big mess this has included updating my will and sorting out all my finances and I have a strong desire to throw away old clothes etc this seems therapeutic in some way
At the moment the pain is minimal so I am managing to get out for a short walk/coffee weather permitting most days and havent lost my appetite!
The worst thing for me is telling other people I still haven't been able to tell my elderly mum who lives 6 hours away and is not well herself. Also my stepfather has clinical depression and start of dementia so I'm really worried that she wont be able to cope with this news.
It's good to be able to connect with other people who understand how you feel everyone has been very supportive but they can never truly understand how it feels to be in a nightmare
So the results are back from the hospital. Despite having had my ovaries removed 3 years ago for a non cancer related reason it's either ovarian or primary peritoneal cancer ( a close relation to ovarian cancer)
Now waiting for gynae oncology to decide on treatment options, should know early next week.
Hate the waiting.....
The words 'treatment options' are the ones that matter here. As long as there is a plan for your treatment you are still on the winning side.
Of course you hate the waiting, if we could do the waiting for you we would.
I always quote Rainieday who says " onwards and upwards" good luck xxx
Norberry has said it for me. Your team will have a plan that you can get to grips with and go forward. We are all rooting for you. All the best. Rainie x
Hi Rosiesuecat sorry to hear your news. It’s so scary being told you have this awful disease, you just want to get on with the treatment as soon as possible. You must be feeling in limbo at the moment waiting to find out what they are going to do. I hope you don’t have to wait long x
Thanks all consultant called me this afternoon and confirmed there are a few tests they need to do but want to get me started on chemo as soon as possible
Waiting is horrid, I hope the tests are sorted out quickly.
Best wishes
Sarah
Chemo is there to help. It can be a bit miserable sometimes during the treatment but it is doable. Everyone on here will tell you that.
Xxx
Hi Rosiesuecat, that's positive news that you can have treatment after a few tests. Keep the word positive in your head even when you feel down, having a positive attitude really does help. I saw the oncologist on the 22nd of December and although she said she wasn't discharging me I was put on palliative care. My "Just in case box" or as I have renamed it " My one foot in the grave box" was delivered by a district nurse last week. Full of the Liverpool pathway goodies, Midazolam and Morphine. I've no intention of needing that anytime soon LOL. Anyway keep your spirits up as best as you can, we are all rooting for you. Kind regards Frank.
Thanks Frank. I think you have to keep a sense of humour as well and try to keep some sense of routine in the day. And doing something enjoyable if possible
Take care
Sally
Sally, I totally agree with you about having a sense of humour and keeping some sort of routine. I have always enjoyed pottering around doing DIY projects, I'm not an expert but usually I can do most things to a satisfactory standard. Yesterday I dug out my old Woolworths soldering kit which I haven't used for several years and repaired my small rechargeable hoover. I'm intending to split some small logs tomorrow, I didn't feel like it today because I stayed up until about 3:00 am this morning. I've not been fit enough to use my chainsaw for several months. I'm itching to get out to saw up some lengths of wood for chopping into kindling. I'll get my best friend of over 50 years to help me. My wife would give me grief if I tried to do it myself LOL. I'm scared to try using emojis here, the last time I tried it emojis appeared all over my post and deleted words. Anyway my dark sense of humour sometimes gets me into trouble with my friends and family but I don't care too much. I tell them it helps me deal with things. Take care and kind regards Frank.
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