Hi everyone
I was diagnosed on Tuesday with metastic peritoneal cancer following a visit to A and E with stomach pain . I have no previous history of cancer so this was a big shock although I did suspect in my gut something was not right.
At the moment I am waiting for test results to see if the primary cancer can be identified before a treatment plan can be identified ( or not)
I am trying to focus on sorting out all the practical aspects so that my other half wont be left with a big mess this has included updating my will and sorting out all my finances and I have a strong desire to throw away old clothes etc this seems therapeutic in some way
At the moment the pain is minimal so I am managing to get out for a short walk/coffee weather permitting most days and havent lost my appetite!
The worst thing for me is telling other people I still haven't been able to tell my elderly mum who lives 6 hours away and is not well herself. Also my stepfather has clinical depression and start of dementia so I'm really worried that she wont be able to cope with this news.
It's good to be able to connect with other people who understand how you feel everyone has been very supportive but they can never truly understand how it feels to be in a nightmare
Dark humour , or gallows humour does help, but you do have to pick your audience don't you!
Sarah
I'm a retired nurse and my already dark sense of humour from many years in the NHS has got even darker but I definitely have to pick my audience. I do find it helps me though, luckily my husband has developed a similar sense of humour but my kids certainly havent
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