New to Living with incurable cancer forum.

Hi Spuduknow and welcome to this terrific Group. I'm sure it won't be long until you get lots of more welcomes from the rest of the gang as well.

It is a known fact here, how your friends and family always tell you how good you look and how well you are doing. To be honest, I don't think people quite know what to say. You did really well if it took you 8 months to have a meltdown! We all have them, I think it is a coping mechanism, so if you feel like crying, just do it, then dust yourself off and put the smile back on your face when talking to others. We all do it! However, here you can tell us how you really feel! We understand! Some say just writing it down helps but knowing we have all been through it helps when you are getting it off your chest does help!

You have had lots of treatment so far, so I hope it is working for you. Please remember too, lots of us here are well past our sell by dates so get that two years out your mind now and take it day by day! I have tried to do that and it seems to work for me.

Now you've joined this group, you will always have someone to talk to day or night!

Ps. I saw Bob Marley live in Glasgow, many moons ago. What a night it was, never to be forgotten!

Hi, I'm new too! Mostly managing to stay strong and upbeat but the sad thoughts creep in sometimes and need squashing. I'm feeling well overall fortunately so keeping working while I can, just to keep occupied. Given that I don't know exactly how long I've got I can't plan to sit around and wait for it. It's all been a bit of a shock really.

Hi Spud, welcome to the group.

I'm about 8 months past diagnosis (August 2020) and I think I'm getting mentally tired of knowing that things are only going in one direction. Once lockdown lifts and we can get out and do a bit more then things will improve I'm sure. 

Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and wait for your second wind to kick in

Stuart x 

Dear Spuduknow and Control Freak,

Well come to this lovely group, full of wise words, comfort and not a little silliness when required.

I hope that you both get as much support as you need here. It's a good place to share both highs and lows so don't hold out.

Best wishes 

Hi Control Freak, Just wanted to say welcome. You are right, no one knows how long they have, so live life as best you can. Unfortunately you can't stop the sad feelings but you can learn how to deal with them!

Thanks Annette! x

Hello Spudyuknow. You are pretty well a mirror of me. I have the same thing but advanced rather than local, and have had all the same treatments. I am nearly four years past diagnosis and did have some huge howling sessions. Now I just have a comfortable little sob now and again, it settles me.

Plenty of time, money and effort is going into prostate cancer research, here and in the US, there's plenty going on. Pretty sure local will let you have a future, I am not a doctor but quite an expert on this now.

You will feel better, I thought I never I would but you will surprise yourself. Good luck.

• Thank you anndanv,

Your words are kind.

I will take everything on board that you have said.

It is nice to know someone is listening and offering advice.

I think that coming to this forum will help imensly now I have finally admitted to my emotional all be it delayed cry.

I'm ok and will keep putting that smile back on.

Thank you so much.

Take care and stay safe.

Spud

"You don't know how Strong you are,

Until being Strong is your only choice"

Bob Marley

Salis,

Thank you,

It is good to talk and listen to advice offered by such kind people.

Stay safe 

Spud 

"You don't know how Strong you are,

Until being Strong is your only choice"

Bob Marley