Drinking

Hi Moi,

Thanks for asking.Yes, the ice cubes definitely help by wetting my mouth and the ice lollies too. I don’t know if it’s in my head but I know I’m not drinking enough. I was told that the cancer has spread to my lung and as one lung was removed, I wonder if it’s that. Difficult time. I don’t know if I should ask to go to a hospice as it’s scary not drinking. Bet you wish you didn’t ask, sorry. I had chemo but I would have thought if it was that, it might have worn off.

Mags123

Hi Mags if you want to go to a hospice do so they are lovery places for the living and can help you with your current problems. I got to discuss all sorts of things including end of life care, which of course is a long way off, but it put my mind at rest, I was told to pop in any time.

Hi Mags , I'm never sorry I asked. As Ulls has said the hospice are always willing to help, if you feel you need to then get in touch with them they could help you. Let me no what is happening.  Thinking of you sending hugs. xx

Moi

Thank you Ulls.

Thank you Moi2

Hi Mags, I have been thinking about you and wondering if things have improved yet, or at least have you got your voice back? That must be very frustrating.

I do hope you took Ulls advice and went for advice to the hospice!

Hello Andanv

Voice is a bit better, thank you. Realised I have to move my mouth about. The doctor said I have thrush and drinking will improve when that goes. I don’t think that it has gone yet but I will be speaking with the doctor.

I didn’t actually go to the hospice but I did decide to stop the chemo.

Hope everyone doing as well as they can do.

Mags123

Hi Moi2

I didn’t want to go at this point. I feel my husband wants me to as he talks about his emotional health even though I try to do most things myself.

I ended up wondering if I needed to go health wise or I was going for him and my daughter helped me decide that if I didn’t feel the need to be there yet, don’t go.

Thank you for thinking of me Moi xx

Hi Mags, sorry to read that you’re having trouble with drinking. I also vote for visiting the hospice. They are wonderful places with all sorts of knowledge and have a lot of experience with all sorts of difficulties arising from cancer or the treatment. I go and use the gym there and get access to physio. I cannot praise it enough. Just go to visit and see what you think. You don’t have to make any decisions and they can give you all sorts of advice on everything and there imaybe a counsellor who can talk to family mebers as well as people living with cancer as there is at mine

Jac x

Hi Mags, I hope it gets cleared up soon.

I do get what you mean about you not "needing" to go to a hospice yet that is also what I thought when it was first suggested to me. However, a few months later, I decided to go, just to check it out and I was pleasantly surprised by all the things going on. They deal with helping the living, as well as the end of life care. 
Honestly, if your husband is struggling with HIS emotional health, I would get him to speak to your GP to get a referral to a councillor. 
One day you may decide to visit a hospice for you, not for your husband, and I'm sure you will be welcomed with open arms!