Dying is not something anyone wants to contemplate or engage with while still alive. But we 'incurables' have been given a new, different focus. It makes us appreciate life more intensely in all its beauty; it has also given us the unique opportunity to approach death in a more focused and balanced way. Fears, anxieties, hopes, wishes, past, children, grandchildren, future, everything has a place.
Let's support each other.
Hi Eddie and everyone who posted. Not sure why I wanted to start this thread but I did want to and I'm glad I did.
Most have had very positive feelings following diagnosis, despite side effects, worries about scan results, endless appointments, failure to live up to our expectations, anger, fear. We get on with what we have, onwards and upwards as Ellie would say.
I read a book not long ago where a depressed young boy who had suffered tremendous abuse said "specialists are there to treat special people, I'm not special". We are all special and we feel that everyday with our partners, children, grandchildren. And even if we are alone, there are hospices, beautiful volunteers and others to help.
And of course all the forums here where we can magically ask for help and get it. I wish you all a Happy Easter
Patrick xx
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