Just lying here unable to sleep. Thoughts going around and around in my head. Going to see the oncologist next Wednesday to see where we go from here in regards to treatment for metastatic breast cancer. Letrozole didn't work. I can feel myself getting weaker and weaker. The side effects from treatments terrify me. I have no interest in extending my life for a few months if the side effects from treatments make me feel bad. I think I may decide to call it a day. Like most on this forum, I have been through so many treatments, hospital admissions, pain. All I want is to be pain free for the time I have left and be able to spend some quality time with my family.. My heart goes out to all of you. I am crying for myself and everyone else who is going through this nightmare.
Hi Coolcat, I don’t sleep well because of pain but rather than lie thinking about it too much, I do jigsaws online. They give you a free one daily and a free weekly pack with about 10 or 20 in it. It keeps my mind busy. Then I do some word games etc before checking the Macsite to see if anyone else is awake. I have been a Night Owl for many years now, so I’m used to it.
The thing about treatment is no one knows if it is going to work or how long it will give you. You said about only extending your life for a few months and it is not worth it. I was told a Trial Drug may extend my life for about 6 months, if I was lucky. I thought about it and decided that in 6 months time they may have another new drug that could help, so I went for it. That was in 2014! So never say never. There is always hope. Do you do jigsaws or read? Anything is better than letting your mind run riot!!
Love Annette x
I am sorry you find yourself here and fully understand your priority. The problem with deciding about a treatment is that they might also manage symptoms (and therefore improve quality of life) as well as bring side effects of their own. Sometimes you don’t know until you try. On the other hand the oncology team generally want you to try something else. I hope you can find a balance.
Sorry I'm only seeing this the night after. I understand being terrified of the side-effects. I'm still fairly new to this but it seems like a balance.... Treatment reduces my bone pain but causes other issues. If the benefit doesn't outweigh the side-effects I'd stop it personally. But it's such an individual, personal decision.
I hope you're sleeping better tonight. I listen to podcasts when I can't sleep, the trick is to find something interesting enough to distract but not so interesting it keeps me awake. Currently that's a silly comedy fantasy called "Attention HellMart Shoppers".
I've just come out of a 48-hour emotional collapse. These times of great upset, they pass. Hopefully leaving you to enjoy times with family.
Lex - xx
Hi Lex,
Thank you for your reply,
I'll take a look at the comedy. I could do with a bit of a laugh.
Hope you continue to feel ok.
Best wishes to you.
Hi, Just wondering if you found the jigsaw app. The logo looks like a piece of jigsaw and when you open it it says JIGSAW Collection HD, They give you so many free ones, I’ve never bought any. However after a month or so I paid to have the adverts removed. At that time it was £4.99 (I don’t know the current price) and you can use it on different devices.
I hope you don’t need it and are now fast asleep though! As Lex says, the Podcasts can be good too!
Love Annette x
Hi Coolcat, Glad to hear the jigsaws helped but sorry to hear you are not asleep yet! I think the jigsaws are good because IF you feel you are going to sleep, all you do is save it and finish it next time!
To be honest I don’t sleep much. I have been referred to the Pain Management Team and I actually got a letter yesterday about what to expect etc. I have to make 2 appointments that are for giving information about how they work. I did expect it to take a lot longer to hear from them, so that is great I’ve heard from them already!
Love Annette x
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