I have secondary breast cancer to my bones and Lupus. Having a bad day mood very low and tearful. I usually put on my happy face but can't do that today. I never get a break recently fell and broke my hand and damaged my face. Also my sister in law had a bad stroke.
Nothing happy ever seems to happen.
I live on my own with my wee dog.
Sometimes I would just like a hug and not be told I'm brave or I look great.
Also I don't feel supported by medical staff.
Only see oncology team after my scan for result inbetween I just have to get on with it.
I've not had one of them ask how my pain is.
Just feel cast adrift at times.
Does anyone else feel like that after a secondary breast cancer diagnosis.
I'm an ex nurse and always supporting other people with their problems but don't feel I get much support back..
I'm the 5th member of my family with cancer and nursed my Mum until she passed away.
Today has just been a bit overwhelming but tomorrow another day.
We all keep going somehow.
Doreen.
Hi Doreen Sorry to hear of your woes . That must be a hard pill to swallow being an ex nurse and spending your life helping others only not to receive the same treatment .The majority of people are good in general and sometimes have their own dramas going on it their lives. I find sometimes its best to do something different or nothing at all depending on how you feel . but dont ponder on negative thoughts as they can multiple. Think positive It really does help . I would love a dog but dont want to break its heart. All the best Regards Minmax I hope you get up tomorrow and throw those curtains open wide X
Hi Luppie
Hello Doreen, I'm sorry to read that you've been down lately. I think a lot of us here will know how you feel. It's hard to see a way out of it once the mind is in that mindset. But things can improve, it can just be little things, like a walk, better weather, gratitude journalling, little treats, self care. All of these things I've had to learn to do as like you, because of my job, I put everyone before myself. I didn't give myself the same care and attention as I did others.
I'm sorry to read of your family members having had cancer and of your recent fall. This will have had some effect on your mood and may have knocked your confidence. It could be worth speaking to your GP about the fall and having your pain reassessed.
I hope you're having a better day today.
A x
Hi Sistermoon You are spot on. The little things can really swing things in your favour to feel better. Its like letting things slide like I get paper cuts where my skin just slowly splits on one or two fingers from eczema and I wake up scratching and want to chop my finger off and be done with it , Got all the creams and tried nearly everything except vaseline which is actually working now Thanks God. All the Best Regards Minmax
Doreen I am sending you a warm long friendly hug to strengthen you and yes at times I felt I was left to my own devices without telling me what next. I have secondary brain cancer and I must say treatment happened within a month and now I have been left alone for 3 months to allow the radiotherapy to shrink the cancer. both times when i had breast cancer and now brain cancer, I was given the nurses phone and email to use for anything I might need. do you have a metastatic nurse you can call? what with broken hand and damaging your face, and your sister in law!!! Goodness you really are having it tough and its good you are able to be in a bad mood, well deserved I would say. I too am tired of putting on a happy face when my internal voice keeps telling me I have brain cancer and sooner than later its gonna get me.
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