How much (or little) do you tell people?

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Do you tell other people

a) I have cancer (leaving details vague)

b) I have cancer thats spread.

My husband can't understand why I'm upset with him.

He tells all and sundry "Harebelle has cancer and it's spread"

I'm upset with him because I don't think people need to know all the depressing details. It changes how people treat me. I get all the sickening head tilts and pity looks or, they avoid me

Also its not his news to tell.

He's just done it again. A relation we hardly ever see has just phoned and he has told them Everything. Warts and all.

Needless to say we are not speaking. Happy days.

Rainieday over 3 years ago in reply to Harebellle

Hi Harebelle, Like many of the others on this thread, I too feel very strongly that this news is owned by you and that only you have the right to impart it to others of your choosing.

Some years ago I had another cancer which was dealt with but I chose not to tell certain people - namely my husbands parents and anybody on that side of the family. My reason was that I knew that every time we met up with them my MiL would drone on and on about it and I'd end up being rude. Sometimes it's better that certain types of people are kept in ignorance, otherwise they are prophets of doom every time you see them and you don't want that.

So I think you have to lay it out your way. To whomever crosses your path. and I hope that you can line up a few ready phrases to keep people supportive but not suffocating you. Know how you feel though. Rainie x