High days and low days

The famous Mexican artist Frida Kahlo attended her first exhibition by being carried in her own bed to it. Still best to think of it as one big slumber party. I wouldn’t even want to attempt sliding down the stairs on a mattress. I have years ago, slid down one or two fancy banister tails.

One thing...once  the wedding celebrations are over, they haven’t got to get ready for bed!

Have you looked at Liberty’s of London for pyjamas, IamLyn? They do the most beautiful women’s silk pjs imaginable 

xx

Daloni,

Thank you so much for the recommendation.  I will look in the new year, I am kind of hoping my divorce will be sorted by Feb so will wait a bit before shopping (Ex is refusing to sign papers, or give me an address, not because he want to still be with me because he is a A**e, I have not spoken to him in 18 years !!).

Anyway enough about me, Daloni I have been following your story with interest and what an amazing person you are, always supporting others and taking time to respond.  I truly hope with all my heart that this trial is going to work for you and will be supporting you all the way.

Lyn

Gragon,

How funny will steer clear of the mattress.  A pillow fight may be fun though (joking of course).

Lyn x

Also

I meant to say that goes for each and everyone of you - we are all chugging along preparing for battle and I have said before each of you inspire me to keep moving and keep hoping.  What a lovely group you all are. 

xx

Daloni

I have just had a browse at Liberty's of London.  OMG they have some beautiful PJ's.  What have you done to me.

xx

I have a idea! When Lamlyn gets married, why don’t we wear our pyjamas too? Not if we are at work and such, but for those of us that are home, and we are online here? Why not!

JackD

How funny, I will of course keep you all posted with the progress.  Courts can be very slow and expensive (a licence to print money I think).  But hey that's the chance I took when I married 29 years ago so guess this is what the 'for worse' bit it of those pesky vows.

x

Hi IamLyn

I am sorry to hear you’re caught up in a divorce. I mean really? Who stands to gain from this? I hope you can get it through without recourse to lawyers. How long ago did you file? If it’s more than a year you can simply divorce him anyway. 

Meanwhile dream of those lovely silk pjs. Cheaper than a wedding dress! 

Thank you for your kind words. I think the best way through our own hard times is to reach out and help others. People wiser than me have said this and I have found it to be true. 

Lots of love xxx

Hi Daloni,

I know right who stands to gain? In my exes warped mind, he does as he is not giving me what I want.

We have no children together, no property and no financial ties.  I did start the process a long time ago when we were 5 years separated and got the same response.  At that time you had to go through a solicitor and I did not qualify for Legal Aid and the bills were just stupid. So I gave up and just got on with my life.

The law has changed recently to a do it yourself, in theory it should only take a few months with both parties consent. Of course I don't have his because he is just refusing to sign papers. I have tried to speak with his mother, who incidentally agrees with me it should be sorted by now but he does not want her to give me his address so her hands are also tied.

He (ex) seems to think it just can be done automatically without his consent or signature. I have my own theory, he is no longer in this country and my belief is he got remarried so does not want to rock any boat. 

I started the do it yourself process just after diagnosis April 19. I want to be rid of the past and love and protect my wonderful, supportive loving partner. He deserves this and is my best friend.

So we are now checking progress daily and as soon as divorce is done, I will be donning my Pjs with pride.

Lyn x