Hi, my name is Steve. I was diagnosed with stage 3 cancer in my rectum in June 2024. Due to the size and concerns over a lymph node I had chemotherapy and chemo radiotherapy over the rest of the year. Scans a month back showed likely cancer cells remaining and I was scheduled for a resection and Ileostomy which was done 2 weeks ago. Since coming out of hospital I am struggling with the life changes. My stoma is very windy and noisy sometimes especially late evening and night. It’s so bad I am now sleeping in a separate bedroom so my wife can get some sleep!
i can cope well with emptying the bag and changing it. Just not the noise and ballooning in the night.
It’s 03:30, I haven’t slept well and don’t know what I will do.
sorry for ranting
Hi SteveC123 and welcome to the group.
I’m sorry to read that you are struggling a bit at the moment, I have had a permanent colostomy for more than 5 years so the challenges were different to those of an ileostomy, but hopefully some of the group will come along and share their experiences.
What I can say, is that it takes time for you to adapt to this change and your surgery is very recent. Stomas of any type take time to heal and settle so hopefully things will improve as you recover.
It took time for me to adapt, and I had a lot of ballooning and wind in the early days, but this did not last for a long time. I still can have wind of course and it depends on what I have eaten. What is your diet like? It can be helpful to keep a diary of what you’re eating to see if things in particular might give you more wind. Certain things I know will make wind an issue for me, but nothing as much as you are experiencing which I can understand will be distressing and keeping you from sleeping.
Never apologise for having a rant here! We all understand the challenges of life changing surgery but be kind to yourself and try to accept that you’ve been through a lot and you need to recover. I hope others might have some advice for you and that you continue to recover without putting too much pressure on yourself.
Sarah xx
Hello SteveC123,
Mine make strange noises at times, mostly when I have carbonated drinks, lager or cider. Make sure that vegetables are cooked soft and fruit is ripe to avoid temporary blockages. Chew your food thoroughly. What suits you will be trial and error. I find plain food such as rice, pasta, skinned jacket potato, porridge, etc. don't cause a problem.
Night time is the worst because there is no background noise
Should you get a blockage then drink a can of full fat cola, which should shift it. I don't care about my noises - at least I can't fart!!
Dulac
Hi SteveC123
Sorry to hear that you're a bit overwhelmed at the minute but it's really early days for you. It's a bit of a learning curve but please take heart - it will improve.
SarahH21 and Dulac have both given you great advice. Can I just add a wee bit more? I'm not sure what your diet is but, in the early days, I found that eating little and often helped as my stoma tends to be noisy when I'm hungry. It always works better if food is passing through slowly but regularly. So I used to split my meals up a bit, then spread them throughout the day. Maybe some cereal at breakfast, banana mid morning, sandwich for lunch, yogurt mid afternoon, chicken or fish with mash and soft veg at teatime, couple of plain biscuits mid evening. Chew well and eat slowly (to avoid gulping in air). That was for the first few weeks anyhow, then start to introduce new foods slowly after that. Just one thing at a time, and not too much, till you see how the stoma reacts.
It's an ileostomy I have, coming up to 4 years now, and I can eat anything (although very careful with some things like nuts and mushrooms). Fizzy drinks cause some ballooning but nothing disastrous.
At the moment you're probably on high alert, wondering what your stoma is about to do next, every noise, every gurgle. That's normal. It will settle down though and you'll start to get used to it's ways and be able to relax more so please don't get too disheartened.
Hope this helps.
X
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