Hi everyone, so 57 year old hubby had tumor removed last year ,keyhole no stoma, but then had anastomic leak so emergency open surgery, followed by perinitius, so 2 days in ITU, 6 weeks in hosp, and came home with a stoma. was told to come back in a year and see about possible reversal. Hated his bag, just couldn't wait to get rid of it.
Saw surgeon this week, removed 2 more polyps during colonoscopy, and whilst in there had a look around, at scarring, stump etc to see if reversal viable.
Apparently, scarring not too bad, and 'just enough' stump left to attempt a reversal. However, apparently once you've had one leak youre at higher risk of having another, and a 'substantial' risk to life. Surgeon is willing to give it a try although in his words it will be 'very difficult', and open surgery again.
Soooo, in my mind, I still have him, he's still able to do most things, he still plays in his Rock band, he's still him, and I honestly don't think the stomas is anywhere near as bad as we was expecting.
However, to hubby, he's always conscious of it, always got his hand on it because it sticks out, he wont get undressed in front of me, has no libido and he just doesn't feel like himself anymore, but he's dreading putting himself thru another op which is a bigger op than the previous 2, and perhaps risking his life.
What to do, what to do...
He wants my advice, he really wants me to make the decision, but I cant.
Anyone else been thru this?
grateful for any comments
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