Intimate

Hi there Jonbonjovi 

Ive had experience with intimacy but I’m female and it was my husband. it’s definitely normal. 
I found it confidence building when I felt I was in control of Whoopi I would make sure it was really clean and empty and folded the pouch in half secured with Velcro provided with my product

As the pouch was empty and in half it didn’t really notice 
I didn’t realise I could do that the first time but once I discovered that I wore a support belt only a small one which made it very discreet 

I would imagine some guys will be along too.

But you could check out the support belts and make sure your pouch folds in half and holds with Velcro. 

A open conversation with your friend may give help your confidence too. 

Good luck. I hope I’ve helped 

Hi Jonbonjovi ,

I had my ileostomy just 3 months ago so still new to all this.

I am male and in my 50s, just so you know, and married for over 20 years.

My wife had a urostomy long before we met and, I will admit partly due to our religious beliefs, we were not under the clothing intimate for some time.  Eventually when she was sure of my honourable intents she revealed that she had a stoma.  I found myself (to my own surprise) very accepting of this and although we did not have intercourse until after wedlock we’ve been very happy with how things have gone.

Now, things for me are still new and we’ve not had intercourse since my operation. But a lot of that is due to my recovery and now the worries of a terminal prognosis and on top of that the effects of chemotherapy.

However, I obviously have an understanding wife who has her own issues so we will sort it out between us.  I agree with Artsie  that the support belt is an excellent idea and one I will certainly take up. Another thought for a gent is that it maybe acceptable to keep on a tee shirt or such perhaps?

It is not helpful I know but you will find your way and what works for you.  You sound a lot younger than me and I am aware that expectations are different between generations, heck between each and every one of us.  I would once again agree with Artsie  that an open conversation with the other person may help - scary as hell but perhaps essential

Good luck in the future with this and all you endeavours.