Yes, two years today since Boris and Donald arrived in my life. A few years ago, I’d never have imagined I’d be living with two stomas, and now it’s hard to imagine what life was even like before they came into it. But they helped to save me, and even though I was very groggy when I woke from surgery, the first thing I did was try to feel if I had bags. I remember smiling when I felt them.
Sarah xx
It’s very difficult doing the sorting out of possessions I found, so I wish you strength with that. I had to clear my mum’s flat, and found it incredibly hard. All those memories, and having to make difficult decisions on what to do with things.
Have you got arrangements for yourself for when the house is sold? Where you will go to live? What a lot you are going through-my heart really does go out to you.
The community is so good here-even speaking to strangers who are simply kind and supportive is such a help I find.
Sarah xx
Oh Jane-what a worry for you on top of dealing with your grief. I’m glad you can look at the positive in that you’ve moved a lot-same here, although I’m settled where I am now. I hope everything will work out well for you after this selling process is complete and you find somewhere that makes you happy and where you can feel settled again.
Sarah xx
Hi Sarah
I’m sorry that you have been hurt by your in laws I find it unbelievable that they are unaware of what you have been through and don’t even bother to ask how you are.
Keeping it close is probably for the best. I told my in-laws who are very clicky next thing it’s all around my village They have been no support anyway.
it’s really good that you do have close friends and family that you trust and can confide in
Take care
Ann
Hi Ann
It doesn’t bother me nowadays to be honest-they are nice to me but uninterested and I rarely see them so it’s not a problem. They seem to care more about one of their two children, always speaking about him and his family, but unfortunately it’s not the one I’m married to! I’m sorry yours have been no support either, and I would hate for my private details to go round in the village.
I have my own daughters and a stepson and some very good close friends, and that’s enough. Despite the fact that I do a lot of talking online in here, I don’t really tend to reveal much in real life!
Did you manage to get that stain out by the way?? I only buy cheap underwear from Matalan as I tend to chuck it out very regularly! But I can see you wouldn’t want to that with an expensive piece of clothing.
Sarah xx
That’s a really good attitude to have. I tend to over think rejection and thoughtless words and get in a pickle. The one learning curve cancer has taught me is to stop trying to please the distant family and concentrate on those close
No I didn’t get the stain out. It happened when I was next door helping a neighbour with her wedding prep.
Now I’m concerned about the dress Ive got. It’s a vintage cream with pink paisley sequin pattern. It’s the perfect choice for a guest wedding outfit but I can just imagine a stain on the front So I’m packing a monochrome outfit too.
Always have a back up plan I say.
We can’t let these stoma’s choose what we wear and what we do.
Oh it’s a super day planned, there’s decorating pottery and animal visits swimming pool. Foods and dancing. Whoopi is not stopping me x
Ann
That sounds like a lovely day Ann, and quite right-don’t let Whoopi dictate! Your outfit sounds ideal but it’s such a nuisance having to think of a back up plan just in case. We’re having a weekend away visiting friends at the end of the month and I’m already concerned about the long car journey and the bedding in their house! But whatever happens, if anything happens, it can be dealt with and it’s hardly a major catastrophe in the grand scheme of things.
We just have to give a little more thought to our planning than most people, but that’s ok!
Sarah xx
So true. I always use extra belt and braces when staying away. But it’s really worth it.
Have a lovely time x
Ann
