Assisted dying

Hi Floral Woman,

I think you are on safe ground. The guidelines only prohibit talk of an intention to pursue assisted dying - this is principally a legal matter more than anything else and to ensure appropriate safeguarding.

You should be fine to discuss the theory of assisted dying and the connection to religion (as long as it meets the usual treating people with respect,etc).

As to my own personal views, I really don’t know. I believe in choice, but I am nervous that things like this are fraught with practical problems. I think it is wholly inappropriate for anyone to force their religious views on anyone else, but even from a secular perspective I can see how there would have to be exceptionally clear guidelines. On balance, I suppose the fact that people travel many miles to do this suggests to me that it is needed. It doesn’t seem right that people have to feel like they are breaking the law - that doesn’t seem right.

Greg

I've been seriously considering making the step to the next dimension my own way.

It's probably very selfish of me but I've really messed my life up and have drug addiction issues that are not fully dealt with  .

Recently I had an orchidectomy, now I'm half the Man I was!

95% of the cancer in my nut was rather tame but 5% was rather aggressive and spread to my stomach and lung.

I'm supposed to start the first of 3 cycles of chemotherapy soon but have buried my head in the sand and tried to forget about it as I'm planning on leaving this dimension on September 6th.

I really need to talk to people as I'm hiding all this from friends and family.

If anyone has any advice on how to make it easier for my family when I go, I'd be grateful to hear from you.

Peace out from a middle aged Junglist soldier.

Hi Junglist soldier,

Have u considered ringing the Help line on 0808 808 0000, 8am to 8pm, to talk this  through? Or even the Samaritans

Also, if you're depressed, maybe now is  not  the best time to be planning your departure.

I wish  u all the, best, whatever u decide to. do -but PLEASE talk to someone first...

Sending u love n big hugs

Hi Junglist Soldier,

I am so so sorry to read about your current situation. I am definitely with Buttercup. Definitely speak with someone, thrash everything out, get it out of you and into the open. It doesn’t matter really, the Macmillan helpline, Samitarians, your GP, anyone really. Writing on here is a brilliant first step. I have no experience of your cancer and I can’t jump into your head and experience what you are experiencing, but I do know that getting stuff out of your head and into the open definitely helps as it sits and festers and snowballs if you keep it in your head.

It might not help you, but I’ll say it anyway - I’ve had the same thoughts that you’ve had - I decided not to act on them and I’m glad I didn’t. Everything is temporary - including happy times, but also including the thoughts you are having now. 

Really feeling for you.

Greg

Hi

I noticed that you specifically asked for advice on how to make your suicide easier for your family.  I wonder, if they knew how you were feeling, what they would like you to do today? Why would they want that? Is that the same thing that you would like for yourself?

Greg has put it so well in describing how his own suicidal thoughts were temporary. That probably doesn't make your current thoughts any weaker, but I wonder if it makes the tunnel seem a bit shorter and world outside the tunnel a bit closer? 

What if that world you emerge out of the tunnel into isn't the next dimension, it's still this one, but along with the chemo and the missing testicle and the addiction issues, there are a whole bunch of other things too? One of them being more time with your family. Perhaps others being; support for addiction, helpful medical professionals, and other men who have also lost testicles?

You are not half a man. But you are a human, and all humans are built with extraordinary resilience, which is why we are so bad at asking for help when the resilience wears thin. Help is out there. Who would like you to access that help, and why?

Also, what's a Junglist? Is it music related?

I've asked way too many questions, sorry!

Thanks for sharing your thoughts with a bunch of strangers, I hope we haven't scared you off with ours.

Hi Junglist soldier, u might want to have a read of this paper too?

www.workingwithcancer.co.uk/.../After-the-treatment-finishes-then-what.pdf

Hi Junglist, re transport to Oxford for chemo ( profile), do u have any volunteer transport in mk?

They usually charge about 45p per mile from the driver's home n are run under the CVS ( community volunteer service) or possibly a local church - u wouldn't have to  b a member!

Hi Junglist soldier, how are u ?