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FormerMember over 16 years ago

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Whether you’re here to talk to others, join a group, ask questions or just listen, everyone is here to offer emotional and practical support to help you with your cancer journey.

We know it can sometimes be confusing when you first arrive, with lots of forums and groups to choose from. So this thread is to welcome you, make friends and help you find your way around the site. Whether you are a patient, family member, friend or a carer, feel free to post any thoughts or questions here and other Share users will be happy to help you navigate around the site and find what you are looking for.

FormerMember over 16 years ago

Thanks for your replies, I wish I could offer support to others but I just don't know what the right thing is so say. Especially as we still don't have a clear picture of what's going on with my mum. She had to go to hospital by ambulance last Thursday as it was suspected that fluid had returned round her lung. However, the x-ray came back clear. So we were told that the reason for her breathlessness and pain could have been due to an infection or that the cancer had spread. The only way we'll know any more is when she's had this last biopsy. The nurse at the hospital said they were pretty sure 'what was going on' but couldn't confirm it without the test. They want to keep her in until they've done it but they're not giving any clue as to when it will be. Am feeling so scared and down.

Take care, all of you,

Clare.

XXX

FormerMember over 16 years ago

Hi Clare

So sorry to hear that your mum is in hospital right now, but its probably the best place until they find exactly what is going on. I know the waiting and not knowing are horrible, and we all hate it but have to bear it unfortunately. This thread is for newbies to introduce themselves, and it may be best now to start a new thread of your own, as your posts might get lost on this one, as more new people come on. It will give you some continuity if you start your own thread, and will enable others to find your posts easily. Please dont worry about offering support to others at this stage. You are very new to all this and have to come to terms with everything first, and that is hard to do when you still dont have all the facts anyway.

Let us know how she gets on with the biopsy. Hopefully then you will know what treatment she is going to have.

Love& Hugs HarryBarb x x

FormerMember over 16 years ago

hi everyone... well yesterday my dad found out that his prostate cancer has spread to his pelvic region and i'm devastated for him . he had the op and was expecting to get the all clear he's only 54 never smoked or drank walks everywhere and in quite good shape.
i just don't know what to say to him he's so upset and so are we all. i think it was more of a shock because he was doin so well. i can't stop cryin. i just don't know what to do or say to him.

moomy over 16 years ago

Oh, Kimmi, how devastating, to think he was well on the way and now he isn't so well....but do try the thread for prostate cancer, if you click onto that on the left of your screen, where it says the subjects under 'search by tags' you will find out the threads about that cancer, listed by the newest first, do feel free to join and you will then have more specific help....do keep posting, though, wherever! You might find it helpful to write a short profile and open it to view, it will help by preventing you having to repeat yourself, and it will help others to see how best to help you too....

Moomy

FormerMember over 16 years ago

Hi Kimmi, So sorry to hear your bad news. What is the outlook for your dad now. You say he has been well so what are the options. I so hope there are treatments and lots of good times still to come for you all. I am thinking of you and sending a hug, I wish i could do more ((((((((((((((((((((((h)))))))))))))))))))))), love leisha x

FormerMember over 16 years ago

to be honest i don't know what's goin to happen, he was so upset last night and so was my mam. they've asked him to have not chemo the other one, (i forget it's name!) or he can have no treatment at all and see what happens.
the thing is it's so hard to see him so upset ,what can i say to him ? i just don't know what to do.

moomy over 16 years ago

Kimmi, is it radiotherapy? Just be there, tell him you love him, do little things for them both to help out, you'll know instinctively how to help in ways a daughter can.....keep posting here too....((((((((a hug)))))))) to help you too....

Moomy

FormerMember over 16 years ago

yer that's it ! as you can tell i don't know much about these things that's why i looked on internet to try and find things out. but it's a lot to take in at min, i just feel so helpless!
thanks for talkin it does help especially when you can't talk to family in case you upset them with it being so raw at the min xxx

moomy over 16 years ago

Kim, sometimes the internet, great though it is, can just plain scare, so please do talk too on here and hopefully also get some one to one help yourself too, if your Dad has a Macmillan nurse, they can be so good at supporting the rest of the family too. I do know how scary things can be, as even though I have some knowledge, being a retired OT, it is still scary when it's your very own family!

Moomy

FormerMember over 16 years ago

Hi

Joined a few days ago. Dad recently been diagnosed with Small cell carcinoma of the Billary tree (which I am assuming is his liver etc) very confusing. Told its a rare form of cancer that usually affects the lungs - trust him to get that one!!

Look forward to talking and sharing thoughts and feelings on here.

Thanks xx

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