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Glioblastoma

My partner Martin was diagnosed with this horrible desease on june 19th 2008. I am so scared of this monster of a disease, why does it happen, where does it come from? Cant we find a cure? please God find one soon. There are htousands of new cases every year why cant we save these peoples lifes from this horrible disease.
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    Hi all

    Joan, I echo your sentiments re this painful, pointless condition, it is cruel beyond words what it does to people and families. The only good that can come of it is the strength that people find that they never knew they had, the knowledge of the kindness of friends and neighbours and the closeness it can bring too. I still think sometimes my hubby is going to wake up and demand his fish and chips again, its hard to accept those times are over. But even in acceptance there can be a strength and a knowledge that all has been done that is possible, and in caring right to the end, whether at home or in hospice.

    Sallye, we too had some 4 day weeks in the treatment, the sessions were made up at the end so the total should be 30 days. The break of treatment is necessary as RT is so powerful, your mum will need a break to recover, she will probably be quite tired in that period as that is when the effects can kick in. after the 30 days she won’t get more RT, just the chemo, as the dose of RT is the maximum anyone can have in a lifetime, any more and the side effects would be intolerable, or so I have read. As Gayle said , over the 6 months of 5days TMZ, the dose of tmz will be gradually increased each time to the maximum she can tolerate.

    Debbie, hope you enjoyed your break at Haven, it certainly has been a sad few days on here. Good to get a break - got to look after yourself too.

    Hi Eileen, good to hear Rob is ok and showing some interest in things. Would you like to bring him to clean out our fishtank? My mum is threatening to remove the fish to her pond if we don’t clean it, but I have other things to think of! How old are your boys? Mine are 12 and 17 and I also have a 15year old daughter – they have all been great, mostly! Where about in Scotland are you - I can’t recall if you said before. We are in Renfrewshire.

    Hi Becca, you put us to shame with your 10ks, ( and you too Lorraine)-I could swim 100 lengths no problem but you’ll never catch me running I’m afraid! Good to hear you making plans for your dad’s birthday.

    Suzanne, sorry I don’t have experience of PCV but I’m sure others here ( or maybe on the WTBT thread ) have, I hope someone is able to reply.

    Hi Lorraine, we are doing ok thanks. Yes it can be hard going, but I do get some respite, went and got the grey removed at the hairdressers today! I’m sure you are a great help to your dad, immensely so – what I would give to have another adult around to help out in the way that you do – even for a few hours – it would be so welcome! So keep up the good work, your dad will be greatly helped by having you around.

    Lesley, how’s the kitchen coming on?

    Hi Allison, your book sounds lovely. What a lovely gift. Just before my hubby took a turn for the worse last week we had a family friend round who just happens to be a photographer – he took some lovely family pictures and now I have them on a disc, I can get as many copies as I want, and have sent some to hubby’s family who live abroad and can’t come over. We will treasure those pictures.

    Gayle, I hope Martin’s chest clears soon.

    Well take care everyone and goodnight

    Love, diane xx



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    Dearest Emma

    I have only just read about your beloved Mathew words fail me love to you and your family at this sad difficult time.

    love

    Izzy

    X xx
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    I am back home in NZ now and have just caught up with posts. Emma I am so sad to read your news. Thinking of you, your children and the rest of the family at this time. You have an amazing husband and reading about his last words brought me to tears. He is so special and I am so so sad for you. Big hugs xxx



    Carrie I'm thinking of you too. Big hugs xxx



    Lisa so sorry to hear about your Dad too. Hugs to you and your family.



    Izzy I was so sad to read about your baby. I had been wondering how things were going. Im glad to hear Blair is doing ok xx



    So much sad news it's just too horrible.



    I found it so hard to say goodbye to my Dad and can't stand the thought of him going through this and living alone. I hate being so far away from him when all I want to do is spend as much time with him as I can. He has changed so much and is so incredibly tired. I really hope he will get some more energy soon as it just seems so unfair that he can't even make the most of the days he has. I'm so scared about what the future will hold and can't imagine how we will cope if things get worse. I'm sorry if that sounds bad as I know many are going through much worse times but it is helping me to write this down as I tend to push thoughts/feelings away so I don't have to deal with how horrible this disease is and the fact that my wonderful wonderful dad has it. sorry about that, crying now.



    I am moving back to the UK at the end of the year and in the meantime will visit every 3 months. If things change before then I will of course go back sooner. A part of me wants to move back right now but at the moment with what my family and I have going on over here this is what we have decided for now. How can you make plans when there is so much uncertainty?



    Sally I think the others have answered your question. It is normal to have a break from radiotherapy over easter as no-one will be working. As long as the days add up in the end. That's the only reason they don't have it on weekends too. As someone said this is the only course of radiotherapy your mum will have, after that it's only chemo. The 4 weeks of nothing is completely correct/normal too. The it is just the temodal which starts again. Ask away, it's confusing isn't it.



    Love to everyone who is living with this horrible cruel disease xxxxx
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    Green Tree - your flight home must have been so hard leaving your dad. Whereabouts is your dad? I don't think he's too far from me, is he? If he would let me I would happily accompany him to any important appointments, or whatever, if I'm available. I have an elderly neighbour and she has just signed up to one of these alarm things that she wears round her neck and has us listed as the first people to call. Is something like this worth considering? Hers is organised through Help the Aged.

    And sorry - another question for all you more experienced in this than me. Hopefully there will come a time when I can help someone else instead of just asking lots of questions. Some of you have talked about hospital beds being delivered downstairs. We have talked about making my mums dining room into bedroom -it's a large room so could easily hold a double bed. And I know that she'd prefer to be in her own double bed than a single / hospital bed. But if we have to get carers in to do baths etc they wouldn't be able to reach into a double would they? Would they then insist on a single hospital bed?

    Also by the time that she would need a bed downstairs should I assume that there would be no point in getting a stair lift to enable her to get upstairs for a bath or a shower?

    SallyE
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    Hi everyone

    I’m going to be a bit selfish with this post as I can’t believe how many there have been over the last few days and I’ve lost track of what’s going on with some of you.

    Emma – hope you’re doing as well as you can. I’m amazed at how I’m feeling at the moment. I can actually read the cards that people have sent and, although there are tears, I’m smiling at the end. I just wish B was here to see and hear what people are saying about him. He was a really lovely person and so many people were very fond of him. Their love is helping me so much. I loved your image of Matthew and B meeting up for some beers. At Christmas B ordered a half barrel of his favourite beer to be delivered here. Unfortunately, his taste buds were shot and he just didn’t enjoy it as much as he thought he might. Our visitors over Christmas did though!

    I’ve been doing all the horrible practical things. Registrars, with youngest son yesterday. Hard, because that’s where we go married. Followed by funeral directors with mother in law. As I had to arrange my Grandma’s funeral last May I think I found that easier. We then went to a local florist to chose our flowers. Today I’m going with a friend to court to sort out probate. I’m also waiting for all the equipment to be collected. I’m not feeling as bad as I thought I would about that as I am trying to forget B how he was with the tumour. Because it affected his mobility, and in the latter stages his mind, he was so different from how he was before the tumour. In a lot of ways he was a totally different person at the end. I’m just so pleased that I was there for him and did as much as I could. I sat down on my own and watched our wedding DVD on Monday, and I smiled a lot as well as shed a few tears.

    I am thinking of all of you, and I’ve also noticed a few different names on the thread too, it never stops does it. When things quieten down I will read all the posts properly.

    Until then, I’m sending you all the biggest hug possible. You are all such special people and I really appreciate you being here.

    Carrie x

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    Morning everyone.

    Carrie, your strength is amazing, B will be so proud of you, looking down at you, its nice to hear that you can manage a little smile at this sad sad time for you, memories are so precious, sending lots of love and a big hug. xxx

    Emma, hope that you are coping hun, was chatting to Becky yesterday, she was telling me all about Mathews funeral arrangements you will do him so proud hun, I read your message from Ella last night on fb, it made me cry, sending you lots of love and a big hug. xxx

    Jay, hope you are getting by sending you a big hug. xxx

    Rona, glad you got home safely, nice to hear that you will be coming home every 3 months, bet you cant wait to come home at the end of the year. xxx

    Sallye, not sure about beds, Diane would be able to help you on that one if she logs on later, we did get some bath, and toilet equipt from social services and a wheelchair, zimmer from OT, hope this helps a little. xxx

    Diane, your photographs sound absolutely lovely, you should post some on fb, hope things are little better for all of you today. xxx

    Becca, you certainly put me to shame, like Diane I could swim 100 lengths, but could not run lol, hope your dad is keeping better. xxx

    Lorraine, you too I am so bloody unfit sine being off work, I did join the gym but Martin doesnt like me to go and leave him, so I dont go anymore, hope you have a lovely few days of work you certainly deserve it, hope your mum is a little better, will text you later. xxx

    Lesley, Yip Martine is off school for nearly 3 weeks, is Amber off nursery? Does she go to school after the summer holidays? When do you go back to work now, bet your not looking forward to it, hope your dad is getting better and will be home soon. xxx

    Joan, hope you and David are doing ok. xxx

    Suzanne, dont have any experience with pcv either, but have heard that it is very good if your body
    can tolerate it. xxx

    Julie, hope you and Stephen are well, speak to you later. xxx

    Debbie, hope all is well in Sheffield, when do you come back up to glasgow? xxx

    Izzy, Christie, Reland, Sue, CH and everyone else thinking of you all.

    Martin still got this bloody chest infection, think I might get the doc back into today, also Martine is feeling poorly grrrrr.

    love

    Gayle xxx

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    Carrie - Im so pleased you've been able to post - have not stopped thinking of you and Emma. How brave of you to watch your wedding video...Im sure it wont be long until the bad memories of the last few months fade and you'll be left with the all the great memories and the person B really truly was. I said only yesterday how my dad dad's personality completley changed from August last year. Sad but true - although he still tries to have a laugh and a joke.

    Emma - thinking loads about you and the girls - sending you and Carrie much strength for the coming days.

    Love to all my mac friends
    from a very rainy and miserable Edinburgh
    xxx
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    Gayle - our posts must have crossed! Amber is still at nursery two days a week as i kept her in private nursery (costs a bleedin fortune!) - my mother in law takes her one day as well. I start back in 4 weeks....the countdown is on - i have no idea how im going to be able to get up at 6.30 again - me and Joe like our long lies!!

    I would get the doc in too if Martin's still not better - poor wee martine too - hope it doesnt last long, she'll be wanting to enjoy her holidays.

    Diane - kitchen still a bombsite -too scared to look properly!

    catch up with you all later. xxx

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    Hi

    I notice a lot of you are over on this thread at the min which I also read but just popped on to help with something hope you don't mind too much...

    Sallye - You mention a hospital bed. I must admit we had great reservations about one for M as she really wanted to be in her own double bed but I would say that the hospital bed makes life a lot easier, especially if your Mum is going to be in bed more and more. It is height adjustable, so carers and yourselves will find it easier to help you Mum it won't mean you end up with back strain etc. The mattress (or ours anyway I am assuming they are all the pretty much the same) was like an air bed and was very comfy (I tried it out!) and helps prevents sores etc the top bit tilts up so if yr Mum has trouble sitting up it will make things so much easier. We had the bed put at the other end of the lounge/dining room bit and it was on wheels so cld be moved about you will need a socket for the air mattress thing to be plugged in. They can be a bit weird about the lifitng thing. We were told carers move and don't lift! Never quite worked that out but they wanted to use a hoist with mum she and we said no it was too undignified so we just did a wash, like a bed bath I suppose which was ample. If yr Mum has trouble moving they can show you ways to help her move in bed to get more comfortable. I think the term hospital bed can be scary but they actually don't look like the beds you see in hospital Mums had a nice wood all round it. They came to drop it off and set it all up and to be honest later on we understood why the mac nurse had tried to get M to have one sooner. We asked if they did a double but they don't and the mattress is all waterproof etc too. Hope you don't mind me popping over and I hope that I have given you a little more information. Take Care

    Sally X
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    My mum also head one of these beds at home, it was great and I don't know if we would have managed without it. Hey, you can always send it back after a few days if the worst comes to the worst.
    Regards x