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At 4.30 this afternoon my beautiful husband lost his battle and passed away. He fought so hard and was so brave during his 16 month illness. I was with him holding his hand along with the rest of the family, and telling him how much we all loved him. The priest came which we were all pleased about. The hardest part was coming home to tell our 7 year old daughter. Our son (age 3) is too young to understand. Rest in peace my gorgeous boy, time to finally rest now. xxxx

Dear Mrs SG ((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))) so sorry to hear your sad news Love Julie xxxx

 

Mrs SG

I am so sorry to hear this news.  He fought and you supported and helped him.  I hope he is at peace now xx

You and the children will be in my thoughts and prayers, 

Joanna xxxx

Mrs SG

So so sorry to hear your sad news. Love and prayers

Wendy X

Mrs SG. I am so sad to hear your news. Your dear man is at last free of this  awful disease. Hugs to you and the children over the coming days. They will give you strength.

Love Cathi xx

Dear Mrs SG

sincere condolences to you and your family.

Mr SG is now free from all the pain and indignity.

Will be in my thoughts and prayers at mass tomorrow.

love jmd xxxxxx

So sorry to hear your news MrsSG. Tony passed on 17th February so I do have an idea of how you might be feeling.

It is lovely to hear that you were able to be with him and talk to him as he passed. If you're like me, this fact will comfort you many times over the next few weeks.

The next few weeks will probably be a whirlwind of telling people and arranging the funeral and paperwork. I wish you all the strength in the world to get you through the next few weeks. I found that keeping busy was a help. I hope you do too.

I found that planning a funeral he would be proud of was a way for me to continue to connect to him and still feel close. 

Good luck with everything my lovely.

Pam

x

Hi Everyone

Well, another milestone passed and the funeral is behind us. One more enormous step in moving forward into a new life.

As funerals go we couldn’t have asked for better. The church, which is itself so beautiful, was packed to the rafters with people. So so many had turned up, many more than had replied to my invitation.  He would have been so pleased to see how highly everybody thought of him and how far they had all  come to send him off.

His two best friends in the world read tributes to him which were both full of stories of fun and adventure and really showed the essence of who Tony was – a very very funny, positive and fun loving man. Our son Charlie was so brave and read a beautiful eulogy to his father. We were all so proud of him, it couldn’t have been easy but his Dad would have been proud.

We sang ‘All things bright and beautiful’ at his Mum’s request as it was her favourite hymn and ‘Jerusalem’ at mine as we had had it at our wedding and he sang it a lot in the car on long journeys when he wanted to keep the blood pumping.

The readings were 1 Corinithians 13 (because the last line sums it all up) and 1 Thessalonians 4 (because I like the idea that we all might sit on a fluffy cloud together one day).

Of course, we played ‘Hey Jude’ by the Beatles as the entry music in tribute to his football team Brentford FC and as the coffin was taken out of the church we played ‘Enjoy Yourself’ by Prince Buster and Jools Holland as his Dad used to sing it to him and his brother on the way upstairs for ‘tiddles and teeth’ when he was a little boy. And I liked the sentiment.

I was worried that my little house wouldn’t hold everyone for the wake but somehow we managed. I had arranged for a hogroast in the garden (which had turned up at 5.30 a.m. that morning) and it was perfect. Everybody thoroughly enjoyed it – well there was none left by 6 o’clock that evening! I was also fortunate enough to be able to arrange caterers and waitresses so didn’t have to worry about serving teas and coffees or wine and beer to people. I spent the whole afternoon just catching up with old friends, sharing stories about Tony and thanking everybody for their love and support.

By 7 o’clock everybody who was going had gone and the rest of us sat with a cup of tea and shared stories of the day. Most importantly, Tony’s parents really loved being surrounded by the people in Tony’s life and I saw them both smiling and laughing with old friends. My father in law gave me a big hug and said it had been a perfect send off and, as it was his son, I took that as the best compliment ever.

And what now? Yesterday, my best friend went home (although she’s back again next weekend) and today, Tony’s best friend is leaving to go back to the US. Fay and Charlie’s boyfriend and girlfriend are also leaving today and tomorrow the children both head back to university. Life goes on.

So here I’ll be, rattling around in this house all on my own (apart from the dog!) with nothing in front of me except a future full of new adventures and challenges. I have to try to think of it that way because if I dwell too much on his absence then I may be tempted to pull the quilt over my head and never leave my bedroom again.

With much love to all.

Pam

x

Dearest Mrs SG,

So very sorry to hear of your loss.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family...........

With deepest sympathy,

Beedarsh xx

MrsSG xxx Hugs to you and your little ones at this sad time x

Tasha x