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Martyn - I am so very sorry. I have not been on here for a while and so have only just read of Doreen's passing. I am glad she passed peacefully, it is a small mercy but one to cling on to. You cared for her in a way that went above and beyond the call of duty. How lucky you were to have each other. My thoughts are with you and your daughters as you begin the next phase of your journey. May Thursday be a day befitting Doreen.

Mrs SG - I have thought of you so much in recent months and have often asked if anyone has heard from you. I am pleased (if that is the correct term) to read Mr SG is still with you. I hope you make a million memories tomorrow as it is those memories that bring so much comfort when needed.

Naomi.x

Dear All,

I don't come on here so often anymore. It has been twelve weeks since Dad said goodbye and ironically I am finding it harder now than I did then.

Having been lucky enough never to have grieved before, the process has surprised me. I have been able to carry on with my every day life, care for my children and mum, whatever but always with a constant sense of something not being quite right, of a sense of loss. Today I tried to watch our recording of last Christmas but it soon became apparent that for me, it was too soon. I longed to hear dad's voice but as soon as I did ...... well, you know the rest.

I would like to wish everyone on here a calm and peaceful Christmas. For all of us, Christmas is not what it used to and it has an entirely different meaning now. Make a million memories, take hundreds of photographs and try and make the best of it. We're all survivors after all!

May 2012 be kind to all of us.

With love,

Naomi.x

Grief.. you think that you'll never survive but you do. Things are just never the same.

Season's Greetings to all.x

Martyn - My very sincere condolences to you and your girls on Doreen's passing. Two wonderful songs for next Thursday.

Pam123 - speaking and confusion of words - Can be very frustrating and I find it best to laugh when/if we can but easier said than done. I sometimes find it difficult to get the words out even though I know what words I want to say. Sometimes they just will not come out of my mouth. I try to stop and compose myself before starting talking again. My speech therapist says to try and keep speaking even if the words are not perfectly correct. This gets over a mental block that might be there. Beware as you do find funny words popping out sometimes! This does come and go so I hope this is just a phase he is going through before it then improves. I don't know how his writing is but that is difficult for me as well - often I have to write words phonetically before then remembering how to spell them.

Naomi - I still cry from my parents dying and that is years ago now. I think this never goes away but it will become less painful over time as you remember the good times.

"Happy Christmas" doesn't seem the right phrase anymore for so many people I have become familiar with on this forum. I think "peace" is the possibly the best and I wish that for you all.

Richard

Dear all,

A year ago today, I was in a very dark place at the start of the journey that we are all too familiar with. I had not yet discovered the train and all the people on it who would become friends. Without all of you it is difficult to know how I would have managed the grim days and there were times that I could not see ahead to this Christmas. Yet here we are.

I raise a glass ( virtual..its only lunch time for gods sake) to all of my fellow travellers .

" To our loved ones. .who at last have found peace" and "Hope to those still on the journey".

Love and Hugs Cathi xx

X

Hello to you all.

The girls and Doreen's sister have now returned home at my suggestion. They will be back on Wednesday. I hope you and your loved ones have a peaceful and enjoyable Christmas. May I take this opportunity to wish everyone as healthy a 2012 as is possible. Thank you all for your wonderful support and advice. Love Martyn XXXX

Hello Martyn, Been following you for a while now and admit not not been a big fan of yours. You have joined another journey now, not sure if its a train or bus or whatever. I admire you greatly and the work, effort and struggle you have had for so long now with Doreen. I am truly sorry she has lost the battle, I am truly sorry you have lost your wife. I hope she is at peace now and you can fight on with your own life. If I can help, I will. Lots of strength to you Martyn, and a man hug. Im so sorry. Mike

I'm sorry about that Mike. I hope I didn't do something to offend you? Thank you for your good wishes and I wish you all the very best for you and yours. Martyn.

I'm planning on having a quiet day at home tomorrow, just the same as always.

I feel quite relaxed and calm about things, and I'm fairly happy to have an un-Christmassy Christmas.

This is a sprout free home this year.

I wish everyone peace this weekend.