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Pete, I hope you don't mind me posting this poem. My sister read it at dad's funeral and the words have helped me on many a dark day. If you change the "he" to "She" it may comfort you too.

"Now That He is Gone"

You can shed tears that he has gone,

Or you can smile because he has lived.

You can close your eyes and pray that he will come back,

Or you can open your eyes and see all that he has left.

Your heart can be empty because you cannot see him,

Or it can be full of the love you have shared.

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live for yesterday,

Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.

You can remember him and ache that he has gone,

Or you can cherish his memory and let him live on.

You can cry and close your mind,

Be empty and turn your back.

Or you can do what he would want:

Smile, open your eyes, love and go on.

It still comforts me, keep going Pete.

Pete,

As a newcomer to this site what can I say !

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

May she rest in peace

Anne

Dear Pete, so sorry to hear the very sad news about Ali, huge hugs and strength to you, look after yourself Julie xxx

Pete i am so sorry to hear your news, thinking of you (i have facebooked you as well)

Love to you all

Louise

Hi I haven't posted for ages - just not felt like it at all - not sure why. Have been following on and off. Pete so so sorry to hear about Ali - your love has shone through all your posts. Lots of love Wendy XX

one of my favourite sayings....made this especially in grey, bit of a hobby of mine .....

Hi Ya Debs,

I must mak a print of Memories. Another one of your Beautiful works. I wish I had a talent for that.

Take care and be safe Jackie.xx

So sorry to hear your sad news Pete...

I too had been following your story each time I've logged on

I don't know what to say Pete... Take care of you, with much love Selina x

So my beautiful sister started her treatment today, Radiotherapy for 6 weeks and Chemotherapy for 12 weeks. She said Radiotherapy was ok and all she felt was a virbration, when she got home from the hospital around 1 o clock she was sick for a while, her hubby is unsure if this is because of the treatment or stress/worry/anxiety. I wonder if the Chemo would cause sickness so quickly? She needs to go for blood test every 2 weeks and if the results of this are low then she would be admitted to hospital, but i assume this is normal and everyone who has been through this gets told the same thing.

We had such a wonderful evening last night watching my niece perform at the Royal Albert Hall, my sister looked lovely, her little strip of hair in which she had shaved for the surgery is growing back and hardly noticable (if you dont know its there) and we were all so proud of my niece, I just wish I could have stopped the clock there and then forever.

Love to you all

Oh, something I didn't relay to you guys was that when Ali was in hospital yesterday morning, she was placed in a room that was literally over the corridor from the A&E triage cubicle where we first entered this nightmare.  It was really emotional to stand there and stare at the empty space where we waited so long to be seen by a consultant.

We spent some of this morning at the funeral directors sorting out the arrangements for laying Ali to rest.  It will be on the 25th.

Her birthday is on the 25th April

We were married on the 25th October

It seems appropriate that we lay her to rest on the 25th of November.  It just feels right.  Tomorrow, I do my best to visit the registrar if I can get an appointment.

I'm feeling bored and lonely alone here in the house tonight.  It's been so emotional to read all of the massages of support on Facebook.

She's going to have so many of her nearest and dearest to see her off....