We Talk Brain Tumours

Hi Miggins-looking at the p.s. request for tea and crumpet in the guards van-I would go for the second alternative that Robin suggested whereby slaves are released. x

Yep, definitely the second option!

So far Martyn agrees with the use of slave, now I have to start working on the r-e-l-e-a-s-e part. He can't say it yet.
In another seven years methinks.
Miggins xx

Hello all, I know I don't post often, but tonight have read some of them back dated - oh and it is good to know that amongst the sadness, the sense of humour is still on the train!!

Thursday - well Rog would have been 58 - so my niece has invited me out to her and her partners (goodness knows when they will ever get married - but they are after buying a dog!!) to eat, drink - oh and they have a hot tub!! I know - but they work hard!!  So I am hopeful that we can be happy, cos that is exactly what he would have wanted.  Sorry, maybe I am on the wrong site - but it helps me to know you are all still fighting, because one day someone is going to WIN!!

Love and take care

XXX Bev

Bev,  on the wrong site? never my friend it's definitely the right site.  Eat and drink loads, but remember that old saying, a lady doesn't make bubbles in a hot tub! XX

A PAY RISE,  do my eyes deceive me? they surely must.    I like the crumpet suggestion, would that be with jam on?  I do need pies though.

Love to all. XXXX

Noooo - That would be with marmite and peanut (crunchy) butter. :). Works on toasts muffins (English ones please) too.

Are there other sorts of muffins Robin? I'm more of a chocolat croissant girl meself! But, I have generously proportioned hampers that can accommodate most baked goods and condiments.
Must need stronger glasses though - keep misreading the word pies in Martyn's post.

Miggins xx

Hi Miggins- are your generously proportioned hampers where you keep your buns? What with Martyn in the guards van with his crumpet and Robin with his muffin-did you say pies or spies?

Thank you all from the bottom of my heart for your lovely posts.

Martin, I send my love to you and your family. All I can say is follow your heart and you will do the right thing for your lovely lady. I found strength I really didn't know I had and I am at peace with myself.

Graham's funeral was on Monday and the turnout was rather huge. My daughters' put together a photo slide that went with the song "True Love" sung by Elton John. My little granddaughter was so brave and said a few words about her Poppa. Friends and colleagues stood up and spoke, I was so proud of my man.

My husband spent 33 years working for the same company and he travelled the country and went overseas to trade shows. He was very much admired by his colleagues and there were people from all over the country in attendance. I was totally overwhelmed with the faces that confronted me after his service.

My girls also provided balloons filled with helium and each had a card attached so messages could be written. They were all released together and apparently it was a lovely sight  to see. Unfortunately I was tied up talking to people inside, so I missed this. It was indeed a celebration of his life, just as he would have wanted it to be.

I feel very numb, but having read many posts from others who are in the same place, I know when it starts getting too tough I take a deep breath and get through a minute at a time. Graham is still very much here with me, I have felt his presence many times.

The wonderful thing about having the time we have with our loved ones is that we are given the time to say everything that needs to be said.

God bless you all. xxxxxxxxx

I just wanted to say to all of you who are still going through very tough times, please try to focus on today, try not to think about tomorrow or what you may have to face further down the line. There is plenty of time for that. Treasure every moment with your loved ones, as this journey is different for us all.

This is how I got through, It has been a tough ride and I have no idea what my future holds for me, but right now I am living today the best I know how.

Hi Everyone

Sue, so sorry to read of your worries about Colin. He has been doing so well and any change is a concern isn't it. I hope things have improved since you posted but want you to know I am thinking of you x

Martin, your strength is amazing - towards both your children and Becky and I hope Becky remains comfortable.  Hopefully Izzy and her friend find comfort in one another as they will each have their own grief but it will be a similar path.  My children aren't doing so well really.  My eldest has started counselling this week and really I think the middle one needs some too.  Who knows about my quiet, reserved youngest?  My eldest has decided to defer uni until September and in the meantime find a relevant job - it's her final year and needs a good degree so we decided it's probably best that she concentrate on herself these coming months rather than risk a lesser degree which could end up messing her future up.  As for the middle daughter she, like your Joe,  is coming home each weekend, even from Reading - not cheap and not quick - but if home is where she needs to be then I won't stop her - she admitted this week on the phone that it has taken her by surprise how much she isn't coping with her dad's passing - I actually believe it's the four years of serious illness that they are also dealing with - the cracks have widened and other 'stuff' is surfacing too. 

Daisie, what a lovely tribute - it certainly felt like such an honour to be Peter's wife especially when so many wanted to pay their respects to him - that part I will treasure forever.  You're right, one moment at a time though actually I do feel that living with BT almost teaches that to us before this part of the journey begins.  Take care and take things slowly - as my counsellor says if you had an open wound you would tend it and wait until it was healed - it is the same with grief.  xx

Thinking of so many of you xxxx