Hello, struggling with support network

I’m sorry this happened and am hoping your friend had a genuine reason for cancelling and will be there for you in the future. But it is a thing, people sounding sincere then not following through. Or friends who invite you out and say feel free to let off steam, then just talk about their own (minor) health problems! My husband has cancer which has metastasised & is having palliative treatment, and our friendship group has changed. Some friends have drifted away but we have made a few new friendships with people who have cancer / their partners who care for them. One new friend told me that her best friend said “I’m sorry but I don’t do illness” and that was the last time she saw her! When I was caring for my father who had terminal cancer I felt quite isolated until I joined a support group for families of people with cancer. Sending you a hug.

I think a lot of people are fair weather friends and nothing more ,even people that on the surface we think are great friends because weve known them for donkeys years...we really don't know them at all and if you analyse it never in the bad times...you find out what people are made of when the chips are down and I've found most people can't even be bothered to answer the phone...I've one friend and one really good friend is all I've found Ive needed.

Hi, I’m sorry it happened to you!! I had a very similar experience and I know how sucky it is. My sister has been diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer in Sep 2025 and I swear I’m in denial despite being her main carer ;(

please don’t feel like you are alone and have no one to talk to, I’m here!