Struggling with partner's anger - need advice

Hi S.J.G 

Sorry to hear about your partner, not something I have really experienced though at some points my wife was really down especially when she was in hospital waiting for an operation. 

Well done for recognizing the importance of looking after yourself if you are to be the best help for your partner. Something I found helped me was looking at your feelings when someone has cancer as being able to recognize those emotions and accept them as normal and valid helped to make them a bit less overwhelming.

<<hugs>>

Steve

I can identify with this massively. . My own anxiety and worries about the future are on hold somewhere whilst I deal with the new every day version of my husband. He is understandably very anxious which manifests as a mixture of panic and fury in any situations and often complete break down and Los of control. He's never been like that so I find it bewildering and upsetting and am completely at a loss how to support him through it. My calmness and attempts to sympathise and problem solve only seem to exacerbate it