feeling alone

Hi PinkSunflower

I am sorry to hear that your partner has been diagnosed with a skin cancer. I understand that it is a worrying time for you both. 

Your feelings and emotions are important and supporting someone through cancer can be challenging at times. 

I do think that it is worth talking to your GP and getting support with your mental health- it is naturally going to be affected during such a stressful time. In my own experience it is difficult to support someone else if you are not also looking after your own health. And remember that you can also access NHS 111 for support 24 hours a day. 

Why not give the Support Line a call and talk things through? There is someone there from 8am-8pm everyday and they can also have a look to see if there is any support in your local area for you both. 

For me, the time around diagnosis both for my own cancer and also for a family members can be tricky times. Emotions can be all over the place and I found once I had a treatment plan and something to focus on, things felt a bit more in control. Same with my family member- once we knew what we were dealing with and what would happen then it did feel a bit more settled. 

Hopefully your partner will find out his treatment plan soon and that you both will be able to have further support from his team. in the meantime we are here if you need us. And definitely give your GP a call in the am. 

Jane

I’m so sorry to hear how you feel ; I can completely sympathise . My husband is under going chemo & immunotherapy for lung cancer & I too feel so alone .
I both my best friends have passed away within the last 4 years & don’t like to talk to my children (who are both adults) about my concerns & how I feel  because I don’t want to worry them . 
I too suffer with mental health problems which started just before my husband’s diagnosis ( mainly anxiety)  . I’ve seen my GP & been offers meds which I declined but had talking therapies arranged by her  which didn’t really help if I’m being honest  .
I think having someone or a support group outside the situation to talk to might be beneficial but it’s finding someone isnt it . Are there any groups in the area where you live that you could join ? There’s nothing really where I live unfortunately x

This is so much like the way I am feeling. I am trying to support my middle aged daughter through breast cancer treatment and recovery but I have never felt more alone in my life. I too have emotional health issues, diagnosed with complex PTSD and definitely can recommend seeing GP who hopefully will have a Community Psychiatric Nurse. My parents and sister are dead, I do not have a partner and cousin I was close to died a couple of years ago. Although I have friends and family nearby I feel I can't talk to them as they are all trying to come to terms with daughter's diagnosis themselves- I can't add to that.

I am so afraid that I may become unwell and be an additional burden. If there was someone who was with me or available to talk to 24/7 I would not feel so alone.

Organisations do their best and are wonderful but cannot help in dark night when you feel unwell or afraid.

Definitely see your GP and find someone to talk to. Best wishes

See my other reply please. Its seems we are all needing the same thing. Its difficult enough I think the get through supporting loved one if you are emotionally well but when you have some problems there it is overwhelming. I agree with you that NHS therapies have been unhelpful. Only talking it out with the CPN at my GP helps but I can't take up all of his time and not often available when I am wanting to talk.

I agree a local group would be ideal but for me it would have to be there 24/7. The dark nights can be very long.

I send my best wishes to you and hope you find something