I'm not sure where to start with this post.
My mum has been diagnosed with terminal stomach cancer this year. She has had 2 aborted operation attempts before the terminal diagnosis was given, and we've been told "months, maybe a year". I'm devastated, I feel like I'm grieving her already, and it's been made worse by an argument with her partner, now I'm being shut out and I feel like I've basically lost her already.
While she was still in hospital her partner did a few things that have given me cause for concern; he kept asking her what to do with all her stuff, asked her why he wasn't in her will, and then changed the locks on their house (not his, theirs). When she came home he didn't give her a key until I got into an argument with him about it. I've never been his biggest fan, and he's gotten between me and my mum before, when I was a teenager, but I didn't expect he would act like this after being told it's terminal.
I'm now no longer welcome at the house, and being told not to attend her hospital appointments (I was previously with her at the hospital most days, and have been the one taking notes and updating the rest of the family) as he wants to be there (he's mostly deaf, so not useful in these scenarios). I've become increasingly concerned that she's in a coercive controlling relationship, and am also struggling with my own mental health about everything that is going on.
I have been trying to stay in contact with my mum as much as I can, without making the situation worse, avoiding the topic of the argument as much as I can and trying to focus our conversations on her, things she wants to do/see and working on our family history.
I don't really know what I'm expecting from writing this, I think I just needed to get it out. I've already been to my GP for a referral to talking therapy, but the wait list for the initial assessment is over a month long, so I'm just trying to muddle through on my own.
