My wife has Cancer, I'm doing my best to look after her. It's difficult,she doesn't want to eat but can't afford to lose any more weight.
I'm an educated guy and know we need to beat some serious odds, but I'm optimistic and like to play against the odds. But this is so difficult.
One minute I am angry the next depressed.in front of my wife I try to be upbeat, proactive and do everything I can. One thing I've learnt is in a relationship you both do your bit. Whatever that might be, so when you have to do it all, it's tough.
I've got a few other things going pear shaped and now I find my emotions are high and low, Angry and Sad with a hint of despair. I fear some poor soul will trigger me and literally won't know what hit him.
Any ideas, please don't tell me violence is not the answer,I know that.
Hi C..
Welcome to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.
My name is Steve and I am one of the community champions, my experience of cancer is via my wife who has Leiomyosarcoma. What sort of cancer does your wife have?
Something that helped me was looking at your feelings when someone has cancer as being able to recognize these emotions and accept them as normal and valid helped to stop them being quite so overwhelming. I ended up doing a living with less stress course and learned more on how to focus more on what we have day by day rather than a future I could not control but could imagine worse than actually happened. After 2 rounds of chemotherapy the oncologists managed to make my wife's cancer stable and it has been that way for over 10 years now - not cured but we will take what we get. The breathing exercises are good to both for helping me relax and also helpful when life decides it might just be time to throw us a new curveball.
Something my GP suggested was going for a walk, especially if that can be amoung some trees, it seemed to help some - a form or green therapy.
<<hugs>>
Steve
