My husband was diagnosed with incurable colorectal cancer a year ago. He had 3 poo tests which came back negative and a scan following an emergency admission to hospital and subsequent operation. His round of chemotherapy didn’t have any effect except to allow the cancer to grow. He’s been on immunotherapy for a year now to good effect but there seems to a change and he has to change treatments again. I don’t mind admitting I’m terrified. He’s scared and often feels down but tends to keep things to himself and is outwardly his normal cheery self to everyone else’s. To cap it all he has type 2 diabetes which has resulted in him having a frozen shoulder and some rheumatoid arthritis in his left hand, he’s left handed. He also has neuropathy in his feet from the treatment. He was an avid golfer and we’re hoping that he’ll get back to it again as his frozen shoulder is not related to his cancer.
I suppose the reason I’m here is that I’m feeling really overwhelmed and can’t seem to shake it. It’s been a gradual thing for me as I think we’ve tried to take it one step at a time and be positive but at the minute I’m struggling to cope. So sorry for the rant,
Hi Evie1
Welcome to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.
I am Steve, one of the community champions and my expereince of cancer is via my wife who has Leiomyosaroma.
Well done for reaching out on here, I don't think there is anyone here who will not relate to your feelings having been through so much already. My first time reaching out was when my wife had been admitted to hospital again and I walked in to our local Maggies.
Something on here that I found quite helpful was looking at your feelings when someone has cancer as being able to recognize those emotions and accept them as normal and valid robbed them of some of their power over me.
Do post on here whenever as someone is always listening - and for a real rant we have a special place The Room just remember to slam the door on the way out.
We are lucky in that the second type of chemo they tried on my wife managed to render her cancer stable and it has been that way for about 10 years now, as she puts it living with cancer where it is not bothering her and she is not bothering it.
<<hugs>>
Steve
