Hi all,
I'm sorry we are all a part of this group, but I'm really looking for somw support.
My dad was diagnosed with lung cancer in December 2025, and it feels like it took forever to get all the further tests done. He was then told he also had spinal cancer in April 2026, and was taken into hospital on 13th May and has been on the oncology ward ever since. They started Radiotherapy on 18th May.
Today my brother called to say our dad is coming out of hospital next week, Tuesday or Wednesday and I initially thought that was good as he must be improving. My brother said they stopped the Radiotherapy as his body wasn't coping with it and will be commencing palliative hospice care at home. We don't know how long he has left. It's sort of shocked me, as I thought he would be okay. I'm really upset about how I can get the information, as he has been so unwell I haven't been able to get hold of him on the phone and his wife and I don't get on so she has not been keeping me update, she has been telling my brother dribs and drabs and he has passed it on, but obviously when I ask questions he doesn't know so he's going back and fore.
I'm going to try and get through to the and tomorrow and see if I can talk to him and I'm hoping to travel down next weekend to see him. We don't live nearby so I haven't been able to visit for a while, I already feel like an awful daughter so please don't have a go at me for that. I have two very young children and I think he would like to see them as well, they're his only grandchildren, but I'm so worried about seeing him. What if he doesn't want to see us? How do I prepare a 2 and 4 year old for such a poorly granddad? I have spokent to them today and my 4 year old is quite upset and says she hates cancer as it's not very kind, which we all agree with. Am I taking their innocence away? I think they should be able to say goodbye, but I'm so worried about scaring them.
Any advice?
