Hi I’m not sure if this is the correct group to post this.
my dad has been diagnosed with terminal cancer it’s in the pancreas and other areas.
he is 65 and still works was in good health.
so it’s all come as a massive shock.
he had been given a few months.
i don’t know how or what to tell my children.
we live a few doors away from them.
the kids see them every day.
i have a 16 year old he has 2 weeks left of his GCSE’s.
a 11 year old girl and a 6year old boy and a 3 year old little girl.who her grandad is her best friend.
He does the school run when im at work we holiday together.
we are a very close family.
i just don't know what to do or say.
i want to wait until after his gcse.
my dad if was up to him would not tell them.
But im going to have to.
just want some advice if anyone has any to give.
thank you
Hi 1986
I can certainly understand waiting a couple of weeks until the GCSE's are done, that seems sensible to me.
In that time you might like to prepare yourseff, a good start might be looking at talking to children and teenagers about cancer and perhaps you might like to share that with your dad too. We have been open with our son about my wife's diagnosis and while things have not always been easy the sense of being included can help build on a firm relationship.
It might be worth approaching the children's schools, our sons was very supportive and of course the teachers are another source of information and support they might reach out to. A book we found quite helpful was the secret C - straight talking about cancer by Julie Stokes.
<<hugs>>
Steve
