My wife whose very young at 33 has just been diagnosed with advanced stage Ovarian cancer this past week. We are in complete shock and I am feeling so anxious about now and the future. I am scared about a future without her, I am scared for my 8-year old son, I am totally in fear of losing her that I cannot bring myself to focus on caring for her right here right now. I have sleepless nights, I have poor appetite, I feel like this is a bad dream.
I take refuge in this great community, loving husbands united in our grieve, anger, sadness and hope. Can someone tell me what I should be focus on right now? How can I bring myself together and focus on helping her, rather than losing my mind worrying about what might happen in the future and what am going to do in the future without her…
Prayer for you all.
Hi zjyboy
Welcome to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.
There are a whole range of emotions we go through when our loved ones get diagnosed by cancer. Something I found quite helpful is looking at your feelings when someone has cancer as being able to recognize these emotions and accept them as normal and valid helped me be a bit less overwelmed.
I did a living with less stress course with Maggies and I found quite a lot of help in learning to live day-to-day as then I could appreciate what we have rather than worrying about a furture that I could not control but could imagine actually worse that things turned out.
Our son was quite young when Janice was first diagnosed. We got a lot of support from his school and that was a big bonus.
<<hugs>>
Steve
