My daughter has breast cancer

I can’t really give you any advice but as someone who has recovered ( hopefully) from breast cancer I think your emotions are all over the place and you hit out at people for no reason. Usually those who you are closest to. Take care 

Thank you.  I'm trying to understand that it's not really my daughter speaking and that I'll get her back when it's over. In the meantime, I need to learn to be tough and less sensitive

Hi Ellen, I'm so sorry you find yourself here. My daughter was diagnosed with aggressive breast cancer 3 years ago. Her treatment took two years...22 cycles of chemo, 3 surgeries and 15 sessions of radiotherapy. Finished a year ago, she has just had one year scans 'no cause for concern'. 

It was a beyond awful time. We cried together at first but gradually tests, treatments, appointments and waiting for results became a 'new normal'. We talked endlessly, me doing a lot of listening and letting her direct the conversation. Most of the time we were fine together but just occasionally she would lash out verbally. This was so unlike her and I was very upset. But it was her, not me, actually going through it and fear, pain and feeling ill all the time makes emotions run very high.

Try not to take it too much to heart. Talk to your daughter. Can you plan a small treat together if she's well enough? Don't let bad feelings go on, put it behind you and move forwards.

Sending love and strength - I know just how all consuming and heartbreaking this time is.