Hello everyone,
Husband was diagnosed with anal cancer couple of months ago, has just finished chemo and radiotherapy. Hospital have told him he will be called for a scan in 6 weeks, so so nervous for the results and it feels like a lifetime away. Also, watching him go through this has been absolutely gut wrenching, he is a young(ish) fit and healthy man, and I wish I could take it instead. We have young children and I’m so frightened of my children losing their dad.
I feel like I can’t show him how upset I am, I feel selfish as its not me going through the physical side of it, but the mental side of watching it is nothing short of torture.
Just wondering if anyone who has been through the same has any words of advice.
Thanks in advance xx
Hi Mum2many
Worry while waiting for a scan is often referred to as scanxiety here. There is quite a good article on the Maggies site that can be helpful.
I am fairly sure your husband will be concerned about you, it can be helpful to talk because it can really help. That feeling of selfishness is really very common but it perhaps just shows how deep the love is - as is the "I wish it was me instead".
Our son was quite young when my wife first got ill, something I struggled with was that my wife never wanted a prognosis but with her cancer, Leiomysoarcoma, it was probably unlikely that a meaningful guess could be made anyway. Fortunatly the second chemotherapy made her cancer stable and now we have been living with cancer for over 10 years.
Do post on here whenever as someone is always listening and remember you are more than welcome to ring the helpline on 0808 808 0000 anyday between 8am and 8pm if that would help too.
<<hugs>>
Steve
Thank you for the reply, glad its not just me feeling like this. His cancer is curable, however I am very glass half empty and the feeling of life will never be “normal” again no matter what the results is constantly in my thoughts. I’m sorry you’ve been through this also, it really is horrible for loved ones too, glad your wife is stable 
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Thanks again xx
