Dad has advanced cancer and I live on the other side of the world

I’m so sorry that your dad has been diagnosed with advanced pancreatic cancer xx 

I’ve been grappling with my mum’s advanced cancer diagnosis, and know how helpless it makes you feel and I can imagine it’s even more difficult when you’re so far away. I don’t know the exact situation but is there any way for you to get time off work to visit him? Could you bring your children along or do you have a partner that can stay with them for a while while you’re there? If it is feasible option, I’d recommend listening to your intuition & making the journey if you feel like everything is telling you you should be there with him. 

We live in the UK and my aunt (who is my mum’s best friend) lives far away abroad, and I’ve been frantically trying to get my aunt to come to the UK so she’s able to spend time with my mum as she’s struggling with being far away as my mum faces treatment. We’ve had difficulties with getting her a visitor visa and I’ve had to fork out money from my savings to get legal support so we can get her here. I think having that opportunity to spend quality time & make more memories with a loved one when they’re grappling with a serious diagnosis is priceless, and if it is feasible, is worth doing. I don’t think you’d regret making the journey there if that is something you truly want to do, and is feasible.

But of course these things aren’t always feasible, and there can be limits with what we’re able to do so try to be kind to yourself if it isn’t possible at the moment and see if there are other ways you can support. Regular calls can make a massive difference (and is what my aunt is currently doing while we try get her here)

Wishing you all the best xx