Hi, I’m looking for advice on how to navigate through this and best support my mum so i’ll start this off by saying my mum (60) was diagnosed with bowel cancer in november ‘24. She was due to begin chemo in february but unfortunately they had found a second tumour the week she was meant to start chemo.
The doctors had stated they couldn’t do another operation due to sepsis and a few other infections so she was in the hospital for a few months until she was moved to hospice, they had given us a life expectancy of 2 months.
So this is where things begin to get a bit iffy, my dad (70) and myself (20) don’t get along at all. He’s constantly picking fights with myself and everyone else also he’s very controlling with my mum. This hasn’t changed much since her diagnosis, as of recently my mum has started to lose her appetite due to the things he’ll say and how he behaves when she eats something he isn’t happy with, and obviously because she’s getting weaker.
It has now become a recurring pattern every time we visit that either himself or my uncle attempt forcing her to eat and make nasty comments whenever she doesn’t. I can tell it’s starting to annoy her and stress her out because anytime my dad starts going off on one she’ll look over at me.
Is it possible I could get a nurse or a doctor to speak to my family about this? and what would be the best way to bring it up because I understand they are busy and I don’t want to interrupt them while they’re doing something.
