I don’t really know what I’m wanting or why I’m writing but I feel so lost. I lost my Nana to cancer in 2021, I’ve recently lost my uncle to cancer and now I’ve found out my grandad has cancer too!
he has lung cancer that has spread to his liver. He does not want treatment or to know how long he has. I need to know what to expect. Are we looking at a year, months, weeks?
I’m struggling with not knowing and knowing that he will not have treatment makes me so angry. I want him to fight to be here longer. I don’t want to loose anyone else.
Hi RaeRae1
Sorry to hear about how cancer has affected your family. We all hear the stats that 1 in 2 will be affected but somehow we hope it will not be anyone we know.
If we look at your feelings when someone has cancer I know I recognize a lot of what I went through but sometimes just recognizing the emotions as valid can help them become somewhat less overwhelming.
For me it is my wife who has cancer and she never wanted an answer to the how long question and I really struggled with that. The only treatment option available to her was chemotherapy though the consultant said that her form of cancer was did not generally respond very well. It is always a complicated decision around active treatment with questions around quality and quantity of life and of course there are no guarantees.
I wonder for you if it might help to talk to one of the team on our helpline - I have cried at them in the past and they are really patient and very understanding. Do post on here whenever you need too as someone is always listening.
<<hugs>>
Steve
