Partner's cancer

Hi Forg,

I'm so, so sorry to hear what you're going through. It sounds like things are really difficult at the minute, especially if you don't have anyone else with you to help you and your partner cope. My mother's just been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer, and it's exactly like you describe - life feels in limbo. I live at home with my parents still, and like you I have a lot of health issues of my own, which makes supporting someone else much harder and more complicated. It's so important for us to try and look after ourselves too, even when the instinct feels to put yourself last and give all emotional and physical energy to your loved one.

I just wanted to say how sorry I am, and how much I feel for you. These forums are so comforting, and people are really great here at giving reassurance and taking your mind off things for a bit. There's always someone to talk to.

Sending big hugs and best wishes

Pip x

My partner of 30 years has multiple cancers and only weeks to live. He’s only 58.
It’s rubbish, isn’t it?

I am going to try to find a support group nearby where I can meet people in the same situation. Could you do that?

Also talk to your GP who can get you someone to talk to about being depressed.

If not, drop a line here and we can chat! Or call the helpline anytime you want to talk to someone who is trained to listen.

Sending virtual hugs.

Hi Pip93,

Thank you so much for your very kind reply. It's not an exaggeration to say that I wouldn't be coping at all today without the support of this forum. My partner (P) was taken into hospital yesterday and will be there for days. Knowing that I could tell someone is the difference between life and death (well, not quite, but you know what I mean!).

I'm so sorry to hear about your mother, I hope she's doing okay. I also hope that you are doing okay, as you say, having health issues of your own makes everything so difficult.  You are probably still in the stage of shock and disbelief - hang in there.

I don't know if you can see all posts on this forum or only mine?  For the moment I will just repeat everything rather than leaving anything out.

Hugs gratefully received and sending them back.

Forg 0x0x

Hi Marie J,

Thank you so much for your much appreciated reply. I'm terribly sorry to hear about your situation. I hope your partner is doing as well as possible, he's dreadfully young to be going through this and so are you. I hope you are keeping well as I understand how debilitating all the anguish and misery can be.

Your post brought me back from the brink on Monday night, just in time as my partner (P) was taken into hospital yesterday and I don't know if I could have coped if I hadn't known I had support on this forum. I'm not well enough to go and see him today but he's very understanding.

I don't know if you can see all the posts on this forum, or only mine? So for the moment I will just repeat everything.

I will try to find a support group but it would have to be very nearby. I'm seeing an HCA on Friday, I'll tell her about the depression.

Thank you again, hugs gratefully received and making their way back.

Forg oxo

Hi Forg,

I'm so glad speaking on here has helped you cope. I find chatting to people on these forums a big comfort during such a lonely, difficult time.

I'm sorry to hear about your partner going into hospital. That must be really hard if you're not well enough to visit him today - I really sympathise. I had a nightmare getting to hospital to see my mum when she was in earlier this year, but I'm sure he knows you're thinking of him.

Wishing you and your partner the very best, and sending more hugs!

Pip x