Hi all,
Not sure what I want from this, maybe just to chat to people that are going through the same thing and can understand.
My Dad has papillary cell carcinoma type 2, which is very aggressive. It has been a very complicated journey to get here and many issue another the way, which I imagine everyone has been like this. At the same time they found the Papillary cancer they also found it had spread to his lung
My Dad had surgery last year to remove this and it was the size of a watermelon, and it grew that size in just 8 months. They also had to take his kidney. They had to leave a bit that was on his aorta as it was too dangerous to remove.
They then put him on some sort of immunotherapy taken by tablet as he couldn't have chemotherapy.
In February this year we found out that he has at best another 2 years left with us. And in that time since February to now the cancer has spread to his T12 in his spine, and also to his pelvis which is also causing spurs to grow. He is currently in hospital as he is in a bad way and they are trying to figure out what to do.
But then to add onto this we found out yesterday that my father in law has stage 4 lung cancer. We don't yet have much more information on that as he got that diagnosis just yesterday.
I honestly feeling like I am pulling my hair out with all the waiting for different things and seeing my dad in so much pain, he wants to be enjoying what little time he has left.
I also feel so angry about it all. The team that are looking after my dad have been amazing and I know that they are doing everything they can but all the waiting and not getting anywhere is driving me mad!
And now it's going to be waiting and everything else all over again with my father in law and also trying to support my better half through this while trying to stay together myself.
Like I said I don't know what I'll get out of this, but talking to someone and getting this off my chest to a group of people that will understand will help.
We have had some more bad news today that the cancer on his spine has grown and they have found new cancer on his rib cage
Thanks, Robin
HI RLM / Robin,
Waiting sucks and watching our loved ones go through all this it can make us feel terrible. If we look at your feelings when someone has cancer I know I see a lot of what I went through. However when I did a living with less stress course it helped me to realise I could recognize and acknowledge those emotions without them dominating me.
My wife never wanted a prognosis (now long) and I struggled with that but learnt they are only a best guess really and their are no guarantees and of course even with a cancer diagnosis our loved ones are not protected from everything else in life.
<<hugs>>
Steve
