Husband with possible recurrence

Hi Jma92 

So sorry to read about your husband, for us it is my wife with the cancer and in her case cure was never a possibility but it has been stable for 8 years now and as she says - it is not bothering me and I am not bothering it.

With any cancer issue things run quite quickly so hopefully the CT scan will soon be done. Sometimes when we get emotional words get difficult to find though sometimes a hug can talk a million words. It is also easy to get in to some kind of guilt as to why are they ill as I would take the hit for them - life does not work like that though.

When you find out it might help to look through talking about cancer, when I came out at work I found a great many colleagues then felt comfortable talking about their own cancer journeys, something they may help not felt comfortable to do before.

<<hugs>>

Steve

Thanks very much Steve, glad you hear your wife is stable. I’ll have a look at that resource as I’m dreading telling people but at the same time, feel like I have no one to talk to. I don’t want to upset my husband, my mom prefers to bury her head in the sand and the one friend I told about it has never really talked to me about it either. I just hope we get answers soon. Thanks again. 

Hi,

Sorry not much advice but just sending all my love to you. We're on a similar situation,  markers raising now 13 years down the line and a lot of worry... If you need to chat, I'm here :) 

Best of luck to you both

Ps: we managed 2 wonderful kids naturally, so there's hope! You'd also be elegible for IVF (depending on your circumstances) so worth talking about that if you've not already done it and he hasn't got any sperm saved. 

Thank you so much for your message - we are wanting children and I keep seeing statistics about men who get TC are more likely to be infertile anyway. It’s good to hear you were able to have children.

Sorry to hear about your situation - the waiting is awful. After more tests my husbands is a recurrence and he’s starting chemo in the next few weeks, and has sperm banking booked beforehand. Strangely we’re both feeling more positive now there’s a plan in place. All the treatments they talk about are curative. I hope your partner’s is not a recurrence - I read a lot of studies about how a HCG rise can be due to lower testosterone. Thanks for your message and if you want someone to talk to, I’m here too :) Best of luck to you both!