My Dad has recently been diagnosed with Liver Cancer and I'm terrified. He's starting to feel tired and has twinges of pain. His appetite is going and he's getting itchy hands, symptoms they say of end stage Cancer. But I'm.finding it hard to believe this, as apart from all that he seems fine. Or maybe I'm just imagining he's OK and im in complete denial. He tells me I have to accept that he won't be here long and he's angry. I just want to cry and tell him.hes going to live, but it's so hard, because I can't protect him from what's ahead. I'm just hoping it can all be managed and I'll stay strong enough for him. Its like going into the unknown. We lost my brother suddenly when he was a teenager and I'm scared I won't be able to cope in a world without my Dad. Thinking of everyone going through it.
I'm so sorry. It must be very hard for your dad and I can understand why he's angry but it's very hard for you too. Having to see someone you love showing signs of serious illness and not being able to change that is so dis-empowering and frightening. It's just over a week since my daughter was diagnosed with cervical cancer and, after some very good advice on this forum, I'm just concentrating on getting through each day as it comes and am not thinking very far into the future. I'm trying to be there when she needs me and back off when she needs her own space.The thing is our loved ones are here now and we can spend time with them, talk to them and tell them we love them and that's great. I'm not sure if this is much help but I'm sending you a cyber hug anyway xxxx
Thank you for your response and wise words, I think you've said it perfectly and its really helped. The reminder to stay in the here and now is key and its advice im going to be holding onto from here on in. Also it is great that we can still have time with our loved ones. Your Daughter's lucky to have you and I hope there's a multitude of things that can be done to help. Sending cyber hugs right back, thank you xxx
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