My partner has just been diagnosed on the 22nd December with prostate cancer (gleason 7 3+4) since then he’s had up days and down days, today is probably the worst down I have seen him have in the 23 years we’ve been together. He picked our youngest two children up from school and before I came home he’d gone out.
Positive things have been happening for other members of our family and he sees that, and has said he has nothing positive happening to him.
If we do try to say positive things he puts it down and turns it back to a negative.
For many years I have suffered with anxiety and mild depression then last year I was diagnosed with focal epilepsy. I want to be strong for him, be there for him and support him as much as he has me over the years, but he just pushing me away. Saying no one is considering his feelings but when asked he says I’m fine don’t worry about me. He’s refused to come home tonight, he’s refused to tell me where he’s staying. Says that he’s safer on his own. How do I help him? How do I get him to truly open up ? (He’s a proud man that doesn’t show weakness)
