Hi,
I'm 25 & my mum was diagnosed with stage 4 metastatic bowel cancer back in April this year. Since then I've struggled with a horrible all consuming anger; not directed towards my mum, but directed at everyone else outside of our family. I think it's a juggling act of feeling resentment that I may lose my mum at a young age, and general anger at the helplessness of the situation. Currently I struggle to feel happy for anyone else right now because some bitter part of my brain is so jealous & resentful of the fact that my mum is suffering & they get to carry on with their life, & I hate that I can't feel empathy right now because this isn't who I am (or who I thought I was).
Has anyone else experienced this & if so did it get better & how did you cope?
You’re not alone, we are all here for each other. I am going to try and make a group chat on here so that we can all rant/rent more privately if we need. Finding this forum has helped me so much in not feeling like I’m the only person having to go through this.
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