Hi. This is my first post. My mom had an ultrasound 2 days ago done privately. The sonography team identified 4 lesions in uterus which she thinks are fibroids. There was also an adnexal lesion on the right hand side which was described as ‘irregular’. She was advised to see a doctor and recommended a CT scan by the sonographer. Her CA125 is normal and has been all year.
Nothing has been diagnosed but my mom is really upset. She is convinced she has cancer. I’m a 39 year old male and I sobbed like a child last night because I can see the worry and the angst on her face. I tried to be reassuring. I know it’s not conclusive but it’s a good thing the blood marker was normal. The doctor gave her no reassurance and wouldn’t speculate on the report. He has referred her to a consultant for 20th October.
I woke up this morning at 1:30 feeling terrified. I love my mom so much. She has done so much for me. I care about other people’s sadness and would rather experience any pain and trauma myself.
My work is hugely pressured at a primary school. I care for a lot of people. Yet right now, I feel fear. The thought of working with such uncertainty has stressed me like nothing before in my life.
Hi
I am really sorry to read your post and can understand how scared and worried you are. Cancer is so frightening but do remember it can be treated!
Until you know what you are dealing with, you will fear the worst!
I have had cancer twice and it’s been treated successfully but I well remember how scared and frightened it was for me and my family!
I had many dark days and nights and found keeping busy - doing things that made me happy helped distract me while I was waiting for scan results or hospital appointments.
It may be fibroids but if it isn’t surgery, chemo and other treatments can be really effective so once you know what you are dealing with, it will be easier!
Good luck!
Jac
Thank you for taking the time to reply and I’m so pleased that you have twice successfully beaten cancer. I love your positivity. I’m normally a very positive person too. Not knowing is definitely the hardest. And fear seems to go against logic. Why he so terrified when you haven’t got an answer or when you are dealing with a ‘maybe’? I know everything you say is right and I’m highly appreciative of your response.
Thank you.
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