Hi everyone.
This is my first post here but I’m not sure where else I can go for help.
In February this year, my dad lost his brother and father both to short battles with cancer. We were all completely shocked and it rattled us as a family. Not long after the funerals, we find out another of his brothers has been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Again, our family broke down and we have barely begun to pick up the pieces.
On Wednesday 7th of this month I was diagnosed with 1A1 cervical cancer. I am 21 years old. I am less scared for myself than I am for my family. I think this news will kill my father after all we have already been through this year.
I don’t know how to support my dad with his mourning and also with my diagnosis. I feel I have to be strong for him and not scared but I’m writing this at 2am sobbing in fear.
Im not sure what support is expecting from this forum but I think putting my story out there and saying my piece will help me.
Hi WhiteKnights
So sorry to read about all you are going through as a family. Talking about cancer is always seen to be difficult but when compared to not talking about cancer it can be hard to even imagine how much worse that might be.
Around grief there is no right answer but I was touched recently at a friends funeral when the celebrant said that grief is the price we pay for love, it was in many ways a really good funeral and the celebration of a live well lived and how many people he had helped.
I wonder if if might help you to talk to one of the staff here on our helpline, they are really good as I have cried my heart out to them before now - 0800 808 0000 and open every day from 8am to 8pm.
<<hugs>>
Steve
