Hi everyone, I don’t really know where to start. This is all really new to me but reaching out to try and gather some support and thought this was the best place. In bristol based if anyone is here too.
My mum has been diagnosed with an aggressive form of cancer which has spread through her womb and lymph nodes to different parts of the body. She is due to start chemo next Wednesday. it is terminal and only palliative care. They have said without chemo she would have only 4 months but with there is a chance at a year or two.
I’m so close to my mum, she’s my best friend and I talk to her everyday and I feel like I’m not ready in anyway. She is being amazing, strong and positive and I’m trying my best to do the same for her. I am finding it extremely challenging to navigate.
To add to things I’ve got a newborn who is only 2 months old. Pretty overwhelming. I’m in a different city 2 hours away from mum and they have said that we need to be so careful and for her not to travel during chemo. How do you find the balance? I want to see her as much as possible but don’t want to put her at risk or exhaust her in anyway. It’s so difficult. I’d love some advice from anyone who has had similar situations. Thank you
Hi Cheets35
So sorry to hear about what you are going through. When my son was born in Oxford my mum was in hospital in Cambridge and my aunt in Stoke Mandeville so I was kept rather busy.
Is there someone nearer to your mum who is looking out for her? Hopefully you can keep in touch with them to help keep you up to date with how she is getting on. I am sure you mum will be telling you to put much of your effort in to looking after her grandchild.
Would teams/zoom be a option? These video calling apps while not the same as being together can be a great way of closing the miles.
<<hugs>>
Steve
No advice just to say my mum has been diagnosed with exactly what your mum has. Im pregnant and have a toddler. i Wish I had advice but I’m finding the exact same things hard. Sending love xx
Hi, thank you for messaging. I’m so sorry to hear about your mum too. Can’t imagine juggling a toddler too.
It’s so strange as we’re staying positive and mum is now on her second round of chemo but I’m struggling with the distance and finite time. I would love to just pop round for a quick cuppa to not impede for a few days at a time. It’s so tricky to navigate. Im bristol based if you’re this way and fancy a chat. Big hugs xxx
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