I’m new to the group but have been feeling lots of emotions recently and feel that this is the perfect place to say it all without any judgment.
My Mum has recently been diagnosed with Kidney Cancer. Since she was diagnosed, I haven’t really processed it as she hasn’t had any treatment but is due to have her Kidney removed in a few weeks. Because she doesn’t have any physical and obvious signs that she has cancer, I feel like I’m just blocking it out of my mind as it doesn’t feel real.
But I feel like everything in my life seems to be going on a downward spiral. My relationship is very rocky but I feel because I’m not emotional about my Mum all the time, he seems to think I’m fine, which I’m not. We may argue about things which have nothing to do with it but I don’t feel he’s thinking that maybe I’m just having a tough time at the moment.
Has anyone else experienced other things in their life taking a toll due to a family member being diagnosed? My Mum is my best friend so it’s something I’m not ready to deal with yet.
Sorry about your news.
My relationship with my brother, which was already tricky, has taken a huge turn for the worse since my mum's diagnosis a few weeks ago. Too tired to go into details, but it's very painful to deal with on top of being so worried about my mum.
I feel for you!
Hello, I can relate. My relationship has been rocky since my dads diagnosis unfortunately. My partner seems to not understand my emotions and doesn’t give me the verbal support I need. It’s really hard to communicate because most of the time I just want to sit alone and not do anything. But we live together so he wants to get on with life.
I’m not sure how we are meant to move forward having to deal with cancer in the family but still get on with daily life like everything is fine? I can’t hide emotions and there’s no rule book!
I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this.
My relationship has definitely been impacted, my partner really struggles to support me because he doesn't know how. i spoke with him about it and he said he didn't want to say anything that would upset me so he left me alone, he also said he can't fix any of it so feels like he doesn't know what to say. I explained that I know it is hard to support someone going through this, especially when there is no 'fix' but actually I don't need him to fix anyhing and I don't need him to know what to say. I just need him to be a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on and to respect when I do want time on my own.
It has definitely been hard and I do feel like we have become a bit distant. I hope it improves for you x
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