My mother in law has lived with breast cancer for 6 years and over the past 6 weeks we have been told she has secondary cancer in the bone marrow. This came to light as she was admitted to the hospital with a kidney infection.
In such a short time she has deteriorated, she is on a driver for pain relief as well as other pain killers, we are not sure she u derstands the severity of her cancer and is hoping that a shot at radiotherapy and some pins in her leg will sort her out. I have no idea how to approach this with her or my daughters who adore their gran. We have been told the timescale really depends om her fight, it could b a few short months 6 at best or if she fights maybe slightly more. My husband is in bits and not coping with this at all, my sister and brother in law are trying to stay strong but it's taking its toll on us all.
I feel I'm babbling here but any advice would be so gratefully accepted x
Hi
Sorry to hear about your mother in law, being in hospital with a kidney infection is challenging enough but to have found the secondary cancer too is clearly a challenge.
If might help if we look at Your feelings when someone has cancer I am sure everyone will recognize the impact a diagnosis has on them - i just with that "trying to stay strong" bit was as easy to do as it is to type.
Often a prognosis turns out to be less than helpful and some people find the language around fighting cancer challenging. My wife's cancer is uncurbable but is thankfully stable for now and so for the last six years we have been living with cancer.
You don;t say how old your daughters are, it might be helpful to look at Talking to children and teenagers as there are lots of tips there. Our son was quite young when my wife was first diagnosed and has spent far too long for someone his age visiting hospitals but he has shown some remarkable resilience.
Babble here whenever you want, together we make a great team - I have even sobbed my heart out on the phoneline too.
<<hugs>>
Steve
