I think I’ve been in denial. I couldn’t believe that mum had cancer. That this could happen to our family after suddenly losing our dad less than a year ago. But when she cut her hair off, in prep for the chemo, it really hit home.
She had been really poorly for weeks and had been admitted to help build her up before her first dose this week. She had started to perk up, get some of her fire back, but in just a few days of that first dose she has become so frail. So poorly. It shocked me when I saw her today, and I can’t stop crying because I can’t bear to see her suffering.
Hi Mrsk
Welcome to our community though sorry to hear about your mum and your dad, really glad you found both us and the strength to post on here though.
We all hear the statistics on cancer but nobody ever thinks it will happen in their family. Even when it does it is not really a subject of conversation at work or in the pub.
Chemotherapy can be really hard - my wife's first round with chemotherapy seemed to be going really well - until a lung collapsed. That was however treatable but did involve hospital stays and even operations. Her second lot of chemo was rather more successful however in that it rendered her cancer stable - and we have been in that happy state now for six years, living with rather than dying from cancer.
If we look at Your feelings when someone has cancer we see how typical are emotions are, we are normal human beings in extraordinary circumstances and one that really struck me was the loneliness - I would cry alone, I did a living with less stress course that really helped me.
It might help you to join the group for the specific type of cancer your mum has - there are likely to be lots of tips there of things that might make life a little bit easier.
<<hugs>>
Steve
